A sign of evidence from Heaven

Two years ago in January my father-in-law passed away. He went into a coma and my husband received a phone call round 10 p.m. from his family in the Netherlands with the message about the coma and the doctor’s expectation it wouldn’t last longer than 24 hours. When he hang up, I immediately got the message ‘3’ and ‘a quarter’. I supposed it was something with a time but I didn’t know what exactly. First thing we both did, was in our minds connect to his dad’s energy and telling him it was okay to cross over (we gave him ‘permission to go’) and not wait for my husband to make the long journey to the Netherlands. We told him we could say goodbye this way. After this, I offered my husband to do automatic writing with his dad, because that’s possible to do with people who are in a coma. His dad wrote it was his time to leave and that he was happy with our permission for him to leave. And he asked to treasure the nice memories of him. We could sense his energy and emotions with the letter.

We went to bed and in the middle of the night, at 2.45 a.m. (3 and a quarter), the phone rang. My father-in-law had just passed away. He went peaceful and in presence of my mother-in-law, and my husband’s sister and brother. They were sad but also pleased with the way he left. They had all said goodbye in their own way. My husband and I just watched totally amazed to the digital clock that said 2:45 a.m.

Now, two years later, I can tell you ‘dad’ has visited us regularly. If there’s something happening with my husband, he comes with a message that he’s with us and helping. Of course I pass on these messages. But last week, I was reading in a book about asking specific signs of deceased loved ones, and I thought: “I’m going to ask a specific sign from my father-in-law.” Just as evidence. I asked if he’s with my husband right now to help him with his health, to bring me a Laughing Kookaburra feather with blue in it at a place where I don’t expect to find it. I thought this was very specific.

Kookaburra foto door JanWe have a Laughing Kookaburra in our garden (see the photo where it’s sitting on our deck) every now and then and my husband has even patted it. The Kookaburra appears every time as a warning there’s something about to happen or as a confirmation, and we think it’s his dad. Even our girls come to tell us when they spot the Kookaburra in the garden again.

The next day I went to visit a friend, also a medium. When I was sitting at her kitchen table, she walked outside to her veranda and came back with a feather in her hand. She said she had never seen this type of feather and it had purple in it. She got my attention immediately, but I thought ‘no, I asked for blue’. Then she turned the feather in the light and mentioned it was blue.

WP_20150213_003I felt a ‘click’ in my body and told her, that it was My Sign and explained it was a Laughing Kookaburra feather and I asked for this specific sign yesterday from my father-in-law to proof he’s with my husband and helping him. I would never have expected this feather to appear at my friend’s place. And my friend explained she had seen a shadow flying away round dinner time but thought it was a Cockatoo, but it didn’t make any noise and Cockies normally make a lot of noise. It must have been the Laughing Kookaburra then.

Isn’t this a beautiful proof from Heaven? I wanted to share this to show you, you can ask for a specific sign from Heaven too. Let your deceased loved one proof he or she is with you. After asking, let your request go and leave it up to Heaven. Don’t try to control when you’ll receive your proof. It can take a year or it can take a day. Just wait and see. If you’ll receive your proof, you’ll know it immediately. You will feel it’s your proof. Good luck!

Which role do you take in a situation?

The Drama Triangle is a psychological and social model of human interaction in Transactional Analysis (TA). The model posits three habitual psychological roles which people often take in a situation. Everybody takes on a role in a situation but none of the roles make you feel empowered. Read below which roles there are, become aware which role you take and how you can change it into being empowered.

Drama TriangleVictim: is someone who experiences life as difficult. Nothing goes smoothly. It feels like life is unfair and threatening. It can even look like this person attracts misfortune. They feel helpless and powerless and don’t see light at the end of the tunnel. There’s always something going on in their lives and they let everybody know how miserable they are.  Victims ask a lot of negative attention. When a victim identifies himself completely with victimisation, they can even develop illnesses to get attention. But they cause their own misery. It’s their choice. It’s a way of living and they enjoy their suffering (although they won’t admit that). What they need is attention. And there are always rescuers who are willing to give them the attention they need.

Rescuer: is someone who loves to help, even if he’s not asked for help. When there’s no victim around, he won’t rest before he has found someone to take care of. Victims will embrace a rescuer with open arms because there’s finally someone who takes care of them. A rescuer wants to help but takes over something of the victim. He doesn’t really help but rescues the victim. A rescuer has a mixed motive or need to be a rescuer or have a victim. The drive to be a rescuer is often because it’s a way of avoiding or looking at their own anxiety and underlying feelings. The rescuer crosses the boundaries of the victim but also his own boundaries. Victims and rescuers reinforce each other.

Persecutor: is someone who’s judging both victim and rescuer but doesn’t do anything to solve the situation.

There is a way to transform this Drama Triangle into a Winner Triangle.

Do you want to know how? Here it is:
First become aware of which role you take. Become aware of your behaviour to others (action) and what behaviour this provokes (reaction). What do you need from others? Do you need something from others? Go stand in your own power and don’t make others dependent on you.

Victim: Change victimisation in vulnerability and dare to take responsibility for your own life. Take actions until you are an independent person (search professional help, learn new skills, make changes, etc.).

Rescuer: When you stop rescuing, you can help others without the need for anything in return. You help them on their path to their own independency knowing that everyone is responsible for his own luck. Sometimes you can serve someone best by not helping.

Persecutor: You can be more assertive and give useful feedback.

The ideal starting point of the Winner Triangle is that of equality. “I am okay and you are okay”.