Do you want to see things changed in your life?

What do you like to see changed in your life:

  • Do you want a romantic relationship with your soul mate?
  • Do you want a job that gives you joy?
  • Do you want more money to pay your bills and do more things that bring you joy (i.e. going on a holiday)?
  • Do you want to have more time for yourself or quality time with your kids?

changeWhen you have one or more of these desires, you can be constantly wondering yourself how you can achieve this. But there is an easy way to start creating all this!

First you have to have clear for yourself what you exactly want and what’s important for you. Let’s take a romantic relationship with your soul mate. What is for you your soul mate? What’s your perfect partner? Grab paper and a pen and write it down. Is it the way they look, is it that they experienced a lot in life (like you) and that they have already released their past, is it that they love and accept themselves completely, is it that they want the best for you, etc.? Write down everything you can think of, and if you get new insights, add them to your list.

In case of a job that gives you joy. Create your list with what’s important for you in a job. List the days and times you want to work, what makes you happy in work (the product or service the company sells or colleagues from the same age that have a lot of humour, appreciation from your manager for your work), in which location do you want to work (in the same town, or within 20 km), what salary do you want to earn, etc.?

Now, what’s the big trick to do with your list(s) to get your desired changes manifested in your life? Here it comes!

Write down on top of your lists ‘Dear Angels, please help me attract and receive this in my life’, and write under your list ‘This or something better God/Angels’, put the lists in an envelope, let it all go and leave it to the angels. Trust they will deliver. You can light a candle to ask the angels to help you manifest everything you wrote in your lists. Just expect it all to happen in your life and from now on, open yourself for guidance and signs what to do. When you’re looking for work or another job, start spreading the news what you’re looking for, look around and open your ears. When you see or hear about an interesting job, you’ll notice with the feelings in your body that you have to take action on this one. It’s like ‘you know’ this is your job.

Don’t connect a time frame to your wishes. The angels now know what you want in life and they’ll help you to get it. Sometimes it can come in an unexpected way. I like to give some examples from my own life. I created a list for a romantic relationship. I only wanted true love, so with my soul mate. Better no relationship than one with someone who wasn’t true love and my soul mate. It was a long list J. The angels delivered! My current husband is definitely my soul mate and he only missed two ticks on my list; he’s a few years older than I asked for, and he lives in Australia (instead of 20 km from where I used to live). The age was no problem for me, and the distance… I emigrated to Australia to be with him! Another example: after my divorce in 2009 I needed to find a new house, but I didn’t have a steady income back then. I created a list about my perfect house, I drove through the town where I wanted to stay and told the angels which parts I liked to live and added that to my list. I wrote what rent I could pay. One week before I had to move from my house (because it was sold), I got the keys of my new house, which was exactly what I asked for, except it had to be cleaned completely because it was very dirty inside from the last habitants (that was no problem for me). And a very recent example: I wanted a group of six students for my new course Improve your Mediumship. On the day before the course started, I only had one spot left and in the morning I asked the angels in meditation to deliver the sixth student. In the afternoon I received a phone call and the sixth student enrolled! She was happy with the last spot (she said it felt like it was meant to be for her) and I was even happier with a full group!

If you have experiences with angels’ help, please share them. I love angel stories! It helps others to start creating lists and to start asking for the help of angels too.

  • Is your glass half-full or half-empty?
  • Can you keep your thoughts positive or do they change into negative thoughts during a day?
  • What’s the reason they change during a day?
  • Do you notice how you feel when you have positive thoughts and when you have negative thoughts?
  • How can you transform negative thoughts into positive thoughts again?

Positive thinkingThe questions above help you to become more aware of your thoughts and their influence on your life. If you do your best to always have a glass that’s half-full, it’ll make you feel better. You have a lighter energy, you look for solutions instead of problems, you can see there’ll come sunshine after rain, and you can cope better with life and its challenges. And you feel more energetic, vital and fit. Let’s not forget that you’ll attract positive circumstances too!

How can your positive thoughts change during the day? Let me give you a personal example.

When I was in the last year of my hypnotherapy education I started to notice that when I was feeling good, happy, and energetic, and my mother visited me, there happened something weird. My mother felt depressed when she came but when she left, she felt happy and when I closed the door behind her, I was tired and felt terrible, depressed, and I was thinking negative about life.

I became aware of the exchange of our energy. And I didn’t look forward to her visits because I felt so terrible afterwards.

First, I was angry that she ‘did this to me’. That’s a human reaction, but I learned from it that it was me who gave her the power to change my mood and thoughts. So it’s about responsibility and power.

I took one year of time for myself to find out what was happening. I discovered what my own energy and my mother’s energy was, I learned how to stay in my own energy and not let anyone change it anymore. I held the power of my energy and mood to me. I took responsibility for my own thoughts and mood. If someone else was feeling bad, I could listen and even give advices to try help them become more positive, without letting it influence my energy and mood. That made such a difference! I became more confident, more self-assured and more self-aware. My self-esteem increased too. I took responsibility for my own thoughts and mood and left the responsibility for someone else’s thoughts and mood with them. For me it was life changing!

Now, if you grew up in a family where people judged and criticised, where the glass was always half-empty, where people took the victim role about everything that happened in their lives, where you took over this pattern of thinking, how do you change that into positive thinking? Often it takes an experience of a crisis or confusion in your life, where you are jolted or nudged into rethinking. Only YOU can decide to change your thoughts into positive thinking. Nobody can do it for you. It’s all about the power of your mind; YOU can achieve your goals if YOU set your mind to it.

So, are you ready to change your thoughts into positive thinking?

If you want to change your thought pattern into positive thinking, it means you need to take responsibility and stop blaming others and circumstances for a lack of progress in your career or a strained personal life. By questioning why someone behaves in a certain way toward you, questioning your own behaviour and your responsibility, helps you handle your difficulties in a more reasoned and adult way. This is where growth takes place.

Here are four steps to change your thoughts, thought process, and thought pattern into positive thinking:

  1. Sit quietly and contemplate for a few minutes each day some of the negative thoughts you have had during this day. Ask yourself what it was, and why it was, that you allowed these negative thoughts to enter your mind. What was it that triggered these thoughts? It might be that you allow other people’s moods to affect you. Or you could be the kind of person who finds it hard to ‘lighten up’ when you’re in a really depressing situation. Ask yourself why that is. Some people just like being miserable. Are you one of them?
  2. Make a list of the various effects that you believe positive thinking can have on other people’s lives generally, and then make another list of the effects that positive thinking can have on your own life in particular. Read the lists out loud, until you begin to feel in a really positive and happy frame of mind. As you state each point, it might be good to remember some small thing that occurred in the day that made you feel good.
  3. Make another list, and list only the good/positive factors in your personality. Read them out loud and begin each sentence with ‘I am’. Do this firmly and with confidence, and when you have finished reading out loud all the points, end with the same statement ‘I am’.
  4. Find or create positive affirmations, write them on post-it papers and stick them on places in your house where you see them constantly, like on a mirror, on the kitchen bench, a cupboard door, your wardrobe door. You can even stick a post-it on the steering-wheel of your car. Some examples: I am more confident. I love and accept myself completely. I take responsibility for my thoughts. I am a powerful being. I only have positive thoughts. I achieve whatever I want with positive thoughts. I only think positive from the high point of love. Every day brings me something positive. I attract and receive miracles the whole day. My life goes smoothly. I radiate positivity so I’ll only attract positivity. And of course you can ask your spirit guides and angels to help you with taking responsibility for your thoughts and to only have positive thoughts.