Are you tired because you are busy running around for everyone else? Like your children, partner, family, friends, colleagues, neighbours? And do you wish you had some time for yourself? To do what you like or just doing nothing and relax?
Do you recognise this situation and did you ever wonder why it is that you seem to never have (enough) time for yourself? Why someone else needs you more than you need time for yourself? If you find out why, you can change it and create time for yourself. And find out what will give you energy. So to ‘receive’ instead of always ‘giving’ to others.
Are you ready to find out the truth about what’s going on in your life?
First of all, it’s not that others need you more than yourself. It’s that you, on an unconscious level, give them your time and attention and put them in the first place. What this means, is that you don’t feel worthy to put yourself in the first place. It’s everybody’s needs first and as the last person, you can have your turn. But often you won’t get that turn because the day is already gone. You ‘give’ but you don’t take, so it’s out of balance. You get tired and can even get burned-out.
Look back at your last week and count how many times and how long you have had time for yourself. Where you could do whatever you wanted without being disturbed. Was it daily at least 10 minutes? If not… you need more time for yourself. You need to put yourself in the first place of your life.
How do you do that? Putting yourself in the first place?
By loving and accepting yourself completely and feeling what you and your body need. Then you know you need to give time to yourself to recharge your batteries. Because if you do that, you can spread more love to others too. You start to radiate that you take care of yourself, you’re a good role model, and the people around you start to see they have to take good care of themselves too. You feel more energised, and you are happier.
If you can’t see how to give yourself at least 10 minutes a day, here are some examples:
Set your alarm to get up 10 minutes earlier than usual, and
- meditate in a quiet room, or
- look outside how beautiful nature is, or
- listen to an online free meditation to start your day, or
- do some stretching exercises, or
- just write down how you feel and what your intentions are for the new day ahead.
You can also take your Me-time later in the day, or at the end of the day by
- taking a relaxed bath (with sea salt and baking soda or essential oils) and candles in the room, or
- meditate, or
- whatever feels good for you.
Tell your family members that you don’t want to be disturbed during this Me-time and switch of your phone.
And if you can’t create the Me-time inside your house, book yourself a beauty treatment, a massage, visit a sauna, or visit the beach or make a walk in a beautiful area with a lot of trees.
Create this new habit and you’ll feel much better soon!