With the theme for the month May to Open your Heart, it’s time to look at negative self-judgments you might have which are keeping you from enjoying being you. What thoughts do you have about yourself during the day? I give you an example of one I had yesterday. I was thinking about where I was in my life and I wanted to be so much further. A traumatic experience in my life in 2015 had caused an unexpected new situation which I had to adapt to on a physical, emotional and spiritual level. I noticed yesterday I was beating myself up about being where I am now. And immediately I heard a song in my mind as a message: “Don’t be so hard on yourself, no… Learn to forgive, learn to let go…, Everyone trips, everyone falls…, So, don’t be so hard on yourself no…” You know the song by Jess Glynne? It made me stand still by what I was doing and I thanked universe for this message. I had negative self-judgment thoughts. And I needed to stop and transform those thoughts into positive loving thoughts about myself immediately.

Back to what you’re thinking about yourself. Do you like yourself? Do you like where you are in life? How you live your day-to-day life? How you look? Do you like your friends? Do you like your work? Do you like the relationship you’re in? Do you like your financial situation? Everything in your life is created by your thoughts, because you’ll attract what you think. And of course we have to learn too, so losses and hurt can occur on your path to learn from. It’s how you deal with them.

So, do you have negative self-judgments? It’s okay to have them, good that you became aware of this. It’s totally normal to have them because we are humans and our ego is sometimes very in the way to our happiness. A low self-esteem isn’t helpful either. The good news is you can work on them to create a more confident you. What’s necessary is to be your true you, to love yourself and be gentle with yourself, be nice to yourself. To feel in your heart what you want, to base your decisions on what your heart ‘tells’ you. It’ll increase your happiness.

Think about this: if you are unconditionally loved by the Creator/God although you have made mistakes in the past and said, thought or done things that you don’t like about yourself, why wouldn’t you love yourself unconditionally? You can learn from mistakes in the past, forgive yourself and fill yourself up with love from The Source. It’ll bring you closer in connection to your heart, it’ll deepen the connection to yourself. And that’s what your guides and angels want to see happening for you. They love you unconditionally, and they ask you to love yourself in the same way!

Become aware of your thoughts and decide to transform them into positive ones. Every time you notice a negative self-judgment thought, say: “Out of my mind and memory!” You can visualise it as an energy flying out of your head to the universe, where it’ll be automatically transformed in love and light for you. Then create a new thought that is the opposite, so a very positive one. An example: Instead of the thought “I’m only where I am in my life now and I should have been ten steps further”, you can think: “I am where I am today, it’s okay, I’ve worked hard to get here and I am proud of myself for the work done, There is a plan for me and I have faith in myself and the help from universe to realise all my dreams while enjoying life and it’s miracles.”

Just feel the difference in energy between these two thoughts…