Clients often ask me how best to deal with a partner who has blockages but is not doing anything to release these blockages. It can cause huge relationship issues. If you are the person in the relationship who IS working on yourself, it can get very frustrating to start to see the blockages from your partner, while he/she is not doing anything to release them. It means the blockages of your partner stand in between you and you keep going round in circles with the relationship.

You can’t change your partner. He/she first has to be READY and decide to want to change. Till that point in time has arrived, you can only point out the blockages and work on yourself in the meantime, to release your part. Think about triggers inside you that still are being activated in conversations with or by behaviour from your partner. Triggers mean there are still emotions inside you that want to be released. They can be from your relationship with your partner, but often go back to childhood experiences in relationships with other people like your parents, siblings or people from your school time.

During the time you are conscious about your partner’s blockages and waiting till the moment he/she is ready to change, can be very frustrating and a big test for your patience.

Continuously work on releasing these emotions and focus on what makes you happy, how you can recharge your energy and stay in balance, what brings you joy. Nurture yourself.

You can pray for help for your partner to decide to choose love instead of fear, and to get his/her ‘spiritual awakening’, to decide to work on him-/herself and release his/her past. And a very powerful tool is also to visualise your ideal situation with your partner, where you both are healed from your past, where your relationship is pure, unconditional love and harmony with a respectful communication to each other using encouraging and uplifting words, where you want the best for the other and know each other’s needs and desires and act upon that. While visualising this situation, notice the feelings in your body like a warmth in your heart, joy, an energy boost and the smile on your face. Give the intention to these feelings to expand as much as possible. Then you’re manifesting your desired situation and now trust the universe to deliver a change for the highest and greatest good of everyone involved.

How often have you felt stupid in your life? Maybe you’ve felt stupid because others told you that you were stupid. Or you’ve felt stupid because of decisions you’ve made or actions you’ve shown to others. If you feel stupid, that’s like beating yourself up for what has happened in the past in the above cases.

In case of others telling you you were stupid, it was a projection and you can have heard it so often or it can have hit you so hard, that you’ve internalised it to become your own truth about yourself. And now you believe ‘I am stupid’ which is a blocking belief about yourself. If you understand it’s not a helpful belief in your life and you want to get rid of it, you can release it and transform it with a positive thought about yourself, e.g. ‘I am fine as I am, I am a loving person’.

If you beat yourself up after a decision you’ve made or an action you’ve shown to others, ask yourself first: With the knowledge and experience I’ve had, would I do this in the same way again, or would I allow this to happen again? What have I learned from this experience? What choice will I make from now on that is for my highest & greatest good?

I can tell you that when you’ve learned from a situation, you will do it differently in future because you’ve discovered something about yourself. You’ve grown. You’ll make a healthier choice or trust your intuition without questioning or ignoring it, or you’ve raised your standards and set new boundaries, or you’ll stand up for yourself speaking your truth.

With these new learned lessons and insights, you can best forgive yourself for what has happened, for your decision, your action, your behaviour. ‘I forgive myself for everything that has happened.’ Repeat this sentence a few times out loud and feel what it does inside you. It’s incredibly healing and will make you calm and in the now. Enjoy freeing yourself!

If you need some professional help to come to forgiveness because you feel resistance, reach out to me and we can schedule a session. It’s a great opportunity to free yourself before the new year starts. Send me an email through my contact form on my contact page, and I’ll contact you within 24 hours.

Love yourself unconditionally. Do that for yourself. Be thrilled that you are alive and that you are here. You are the one person you are going to live with forever. Until you are willing to love your inner child, it’s very hard for other people to love you. Accept yourself unconditionally and open-heartedly. – Louise L. Hay –

I see the part of the inner child that is still scared about what has happened in the past, with many clients. They connect with their inner child and help it freeing it from the scary situation. It can be a situation where there was real danger or where they felt ignored or received unloving words spoken to them.

When the inner child is freed, my clients can give them love and support and a life-long connection to protect them. The inner child is saved and can start to grow up feeling loved and being playful again. All this results in my clients stepping in their power again, feeling whole and complete. And also healed.

Then they radiate to the world they are worth receiving love and they have a lot to give too.

Do you remember a situation where you as a child felt not safe or unloved? Leave a comment with the age of you when that situation occurred and add a love heart as love to your inner child. Feel free to add love hearts as a symbol of love for others in their comments too.

Are you noticing that you AND your partner both have issues from the past to work on? It’s good to see that it’s both of you, it means you’re conscious about the issues in the relationship stemming from your past. The root cause of an issue often goes back to your childhood.

If you start to work on yourself, you’ll change (= transform), which will cause a reaction with your partner. Now your partner is standing for the choice to work on him-/herself. If your partner doesn’t do that, you’ll grow further apart and that often leads to a break-up.

The time has come to not sit back and wait what will happen. it’s time to face what emotions you’re carrying and where in your life they started, so you can release them and transform them into positive thoughts about yourself and your life. It’ll contribute to your happiness and joy, and your health.

If both you and your partner take your responsibility for your own negative emotions (blockages) and work on releasing them, it’ll improve your relationship. Triggers won’t be activated anymore because the emotion that was triggered, has been released. Mostly this improves communication between the two of you also.

The last month I notice I’m getting more clients who see that their partner has negative emotions from their past too. If you want to free yourself from blockages from your past, message me and we can have a free phone call to discuss your personal situation. If you want to refer me to your partner, let him/her contact me and I can schedule a free phone call with him/her also to discuss his/her personal situation. I can help both of you and would love the result of an improved relationship for you.

Sometimes seeing a situation from a new point of view can change your feelings about that situation. It can even result in a release of a blockage like a negative emotion or low self-esteem.

An example: once I’ve had a client who got asked by her ex-partner who she had had an affair with, to visit him when he became a terminal cancer patient. She visited him till he passed away but his wife didn’t know about their past affair.

My client decided to visit his funeral although she had strong emotions about the situation. She had loved him deeply and wished to be sitting in the front row too to grieve, but she wasn’t acknowledged being a secret affair.

She ended up in the last rows of the church next to the aisle. When the coffin was carried in, they stopped exactly at her row. She was devastated, angry and traumatised that this had to happen just at her row. How could he do this to her?

In a reading where I connected with his soul, I told her it was not to upset her, but he had stopped especially at her row to acknowledge her presence because he was grateful for her love and support and for visiting his funeral.

This new look upon the situation created she could let go of the emotions including resentment she had been carrying all these years. It was incredibly healing and powerful.

Same situation but with new insights and freeing her from a traumatic experience. I’ll never forget her.

What insights about an old event in your life were healing for you? Share it in a comment below.

You’re giving, giving, giving to others. It’s an act of kindness and you want others to feel good so that they think positive about you. You’re scared others don’t like you. You’re looking for their appreciation, approval and love. It’s like you give yourself away to others in the hope you’ll receive the evidence from them that you are good enough for who you are.

What impact does this behaviour have on your life?


You put aside your own needs completely;

  • You let others cross your boundaries;
  • You feel unhappy;
  • You feel powerless;
  • You get disappointed in others;
  • You lose yourself, your identity/authenticity;
  • You get hurt.

Because you have this hope to receive others’ appreciation, approval and love you often feel hurt by others. They don’t give you back what you give to them. It’s never in balance. It can even cause anger, frustration or resentment inside you. But you never stop giving.

When you become more conscious about your behaviour, you might notice that a lot of emotions round this behaviour are in your heart and that you’re trying to protect yourself from being hurt, from the pain it causes inside you. You start to notice others let you down by saying hurtful words about your behaviour. You feel that others have the power over you, that you are out of control about what’s happening in your life.

What is actually happening here?

Because you’re looking for approval of who you are, you’re giving the power over you away to others and you’re hoping to receive confirmation that you’re good enough and approved for who you are. But no one can give you that approval that you are good as you are. Not even The Creator. The only one who can give that approval to you is YOU! Just let this sink in for a moment; You can approve YourSelf.

This is a big realisation. It can stop your search for approval. It can stop your pattern of behaviour towards others. It can change your life!

How can you change your situation?

By connecting to your heart and saying out loud: I choose now to approve who I am and to believe I am fine as I am, I love myself as I am.
You might feel a resistance to say this, but don’t let this stop you and keep repeating the sentence, first maybe in your mind and then out loud, until you can say it easily and in a flow.

What a relief. You might feel lighter and even a breakthrough. It helps to bring you back in your power, to stand up for yourself, to not let others walk over you any longer, to live your life being YOU and not being scared anymore what others think of you. It’s freedom to be YOU.

If you need assistance to come to this point of approving yourself completely, apply for a FREE Explore your Happiness session now. Fill out the form in this link and I’ll contact you within 24 hours to schedule an appointment for a 30 mins free call.

Energies from outside of you can create to get out of balance or spiraling down to a lower vibration. Do you have any idea of what energies are out there influencing your life? It’s time to become conscious about this. When you know what can have a negative impact on your energy, then you can protect yourself against it and you can make smart choices for what you want in your life.

Other people

Other people can bring their drama, information, problems and events into your life. Their mood, their thoughts and their communication (in words or by sending messages through electronic devices) can affect your energy in a negative way. Know that other people’s problems are NOT your responsibility, so don’t take it on and leave it with them. It’s their experience and they have to learn from it.
Help by empowering them to change their situation and guide them to think of an action they can take as a first step to that change. Taking an action is taking responsibility and keeps you out of victim-behaviour. It’s a choice to look at possible solutions and an opportunity to change the situation.

Planetary changes

Planetary changes can influence your energy too. Everything that’s going on in the world causes emotions to rise to the surface on the whole planet. If you’re sensitive or an empath you can notice a change in your energy. Think about the emotion of shock after a disaster or life-threatening fears.
Also energies of planets’ movements like Mercury Retrograde have an impact on our energy. It’s important with planetary changes to ground yourself well with mother earth, to take the time to connect with your body to feel what can be released and how you can create tranquillity inside. Meditation is a really good help for this.

What if something gets you out of balance? Acknowledge that this has happened first. Don’t judge but just observe what has happened and how you feel. Then find out if you can let go of these feelings by giving words to what you experience in your body and mind. Is your body feeling tense or do you feel a pressure on top of your head? Do you have fears or negative thoughts? Send them away and detach from them. They are not helpful for your life and wellbeing, so you don’t want to keep them any longer.


Now choose to only connect with the highest level of love and light and choose to only have positive, loving and abundant thoughts. If you set that as an intention every morning when you get up, your day will unfold in a different way. Visualise yourself in a golden disco ball of protection and program this ball that only pure, unconditional love can come through and the rest will be reflected back to the sender immediately, transformed in love and light.

If you choose love and light you invite that in your life. Negativity will find another place or person to go to. When you doubt if your guidance is of the highest level of love and light, use your intuition first. What do you feel? Does it feel loving, warm, uplifting? Are the words you get with it uplifting, empowering and of love? That’s positive energy and that’s what you want in your life as guidance. All the other energies that demand you to take certain actions that make you feel uncomfortable or that make you suddenly only having negative thoughts, means you’re receiving info from a lower vibration or negative energy. As soon as you realise this, send them away and refuse to communicate any longer with them nor listen any longer to them. You can always ask Archangel Michael to cleanse your energy and remove any form of negativity attached to you.

I’m curious what ways you have of keeping drama and negativity out of your life. Or how you free yourself from these energies when you notice them. You can share them in a comment below so that others learn more about what methods works.

Great exercise to Manifest

In two weeks time it’ll be Mercury Retrograde again, which is a great opportunity to focus on your Self, what you can let go that doesn’t serve you any longer and what you can create to have the life you dream of. For the creating part, I recently pulled the card Manifesting, and it contained a beautiful exercise to manifest. I’d love to share this exercise with you because to me it was a new way of manifesting through your chakras and it seems very powerful. You can use this exercise for all topics in your life to manifest abundance, a beautiful house, a true love relationship, new like-minded friends, perfect health, a career that is your purpose and completely fulfilling, etc.

“The following Heart-Manifestation Balance helps you bring your heart, solar plexus and navel chakras into alignment so that your energy can work for you.

  • Your heart chakra (location: centre of your chest) represents your heart’s desires and intuition;
  • Your solar plexus chakra (location: the centre of your midriff) represents your sense of self, material reality and your gut instincts’; and
  • Your navel chakra (location: just below your navel) represents your creativity, fertility and ability to manifest.

Simply imagine a flow of energy and light moving through and connecting the three of them in a figure-8 configuration. [8 means infinity and a new beginning.]

When you begin, it may be difficult to visualise or feel anything. The figure-8 may feel heavy or sluggish, or weak and watery. In its healthy state, this energy connection will be rich in a beautiful, bright colour and feel like a strong, even flow pulsing up and down through the figure-8 shape. Placing your hands on any of these three chakras may help you feel the energy, and closing your eyes can make it easier to sense the clear, bright colour emerging in your heart-manifestation connection.

Once you have a feel for the energy pulsing up and down smoothly you can add the final ingredient of this practice – focus on what it is you would like to manifest. This is a great balance to do as you are lying in bed. Morning or evening is fine – you can start your day by tuning into your heart’s desire or drift off to sleep while connecting to all that is available to you in the universe.”

What do you want to manifest with the above exercise? Share your dream life in a comment below.

[The card Manifestation is from the card deck True Love Reading Cards by Belinda Grace]

You have physical pain or illness and have seen a doctor about it. The cause of your pain is unknown and you haven’t been able to solve the pain or get back your health. Another situation: You’ve just had a traumatic experience, a loss that you feel in your heart. After this experience you suffer from anxiety and sleeping problems, you’re very tired and as if you’re carrying a heavy energy with you. Besides that, your mind is constantly busy and you can’t stop the thinking. You’re feeling stuck or alone.

For all the above situations you can use a Reiki healing session to transform your situation. The end result? Feeling super relaxed and calm, sleeping better, an easing of the pain or completely have gotten rid of the pain, partly or more getting back your health, a quiet mind, recharged energy and feeling vital again, cleansed energy and feeling lighter, connected again, and having new space in your mind to receive new insights and to have creativity flow, also to feel grounded with mother earth again.
[I can never promise a cure of health issues. I can only tell about miracle healings I’ve seen happening and share clients’ testimonials about their experiences.]

With my Reiki healing sessions I use a releasing prayer as a start so that you state clearly what you’d like to release and what you desire as the outcome for the session. I work with Reiki masters and angels, Divine Healing Intelligence, the Creator, Archangels, Ascended Masters, the 7 Sacred Flames and their Masters, healing angels, my spirit guides, and your spirit guides, and many more Beings who can help you. That’s why clients often say that they feel my hands on many spots at the same time; they feel the healing energy of all these beautiful helpers too.

In case of physical pain or specific emotions, I can help you with releasing exercises to let them go including their root cause. With physical pain issues it often gives clarity and new insights about the root cause so you can take actions to prevent it from happening again in the future.

Testimonials from clients

Here are some experiences from clients about their healing session:

  • “Astrid is a warm and caring practitioner who had the ability to clearly understand my problems. She gave me more insight into the issues we addressed. We dealt with a major health issue and family relationships. In particular I found the Reiki sessions and visualizations extremely healing. Astrid possesses the skills, flexibility, knowledge and tools that allowed me to achieve my goals.”
    Linda L.
  • “What Astrid does is beyond traditional medicine. What she has is a gift from above. I went to Astrid after all medical interventions failed. I am at least 90% healed and I know that soon I will be fully healed.”
    Mario Jordans
  • “Working in a stressful environment with at risk teenagers, I was feeling more incapable of managing my emotions and keeping my work life out of my home life. My sleeping patterns were terrible; I felt unable to ‘switch off’ and my emotional state was affecting my health.
    I felt the first sessions changed my emotional state instantly. I was able to, with Astrid’s guidance, delve into past relationships and understand how they still affect my wellbeing today. By releasing those emotions and letting go of negativity attached to it, I was able to feel a sense of renewal in my way of dealing with anxiety.”
    Kelly Sherpa

What if you could make a fast shift in your life in just 2 Reiki healing sessions? I’ve created the Quick Fix to Get Back on Track Program for you, consisting of 2x 2 hours Reiki healing. Until 1st October 2020 I have a special discount of $ 60 on the normal price for this Quick Fix Program. Instead of the normal price of $ 360 it’s now $ 300 for 4 hours healing. If you’d like to start this Quick Fix Program as soon as possible, contact me through a call on 0410 046 766 or message and we’ll schedule your sessions to get you back on track.

Have you heard about your I AM Presence? It’s the part of you that is one with the universe, the Source, or the Creator. This part contains all the knowledge and wisdom that you need to live your life. It has the answer to every question. Everybody can connect with their own I AM Presence by inviting it to connect, asking your question and wait for the answer to appear. Often the answers are short and just a few words. You have to quiet your mind to connect and receive the messages.

What happened with humans on earth, is that we’ve disconnected from our I AM Presence because of fear from external sources that don’t want us to have our own knowledge, guidance, and light. They want to control us, but this can only happen if you allow them to. Therefor you can choose to reconnect with your I AM Presence again, to trust this connection that is there for you and that wants to guide you through life.

Firstly, you invite your I AM Presence to connect with you. It’ll be there in a second. You can feel light around you and a sensation at your heart area, maybe you’ll see light in and around you too. It’ll give you a grounding, grateful and loving feeling, and a feeling that all is well, that you’re in your own space and nothing outside you matters for now. You’ve shut out the outside world for now so you can just be focused on you and your connection.

We (Ascended Masters, amongst others St Germain), invite you to connect daily with your I AM Presence to bathe yourself in this energy, to get used to this feeling, to ask questions and to receive the answers. It is restoring the long-lost connection and it’ll help you grow faster to higher levels of consciousness. This will result in feeling connected, guided, loved, having direction, taking actions to more fulfillment in your life, and experiencing more happiness, joy and gratitude.

The biggest blockage interfering with your I AM Presence is fear and fear thoughts. It’s important to face these fears you’re carrying inside from your past, your programming when you were raised, but also the negative information that comes to you from the outside world (think about TV, radio, news). And every human is carrying fears from lifetimes before this one on earth also. Facing your fears and dealing with them to release them, helps to clear the path for your deeper connection. It’ll bring you a freedom feeling that only you can create for yourself.

Do you feel ready to face your fears and release them to restore your connection with your I AM Presence? Astrid offers 5 free sessions of approx. 30 minutes to discuss your personal situation with her and to receive some free tips & advices to start using immediately. She can also tell you how she can facilitate to help you heal so you can connect and receive your I AM Presence again. Fill out your details in the form on this page: and she’ll contact you within 24 hours to make an appointment for your free session.

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