In a conversation with my daughter where I’m trying to help her to transform a situation in her life, she closes herself with the communication. Every time this has happened so far, I’ve noticed the same specific feelings and emotions happening in my body, but I didn’t do anything with it. This particular time a few days ago, there was a change; I was easily able to not buy into this emotion, so it wouldn’t have the power over me, but I became aware that the emotion itself didn’t make any sense with the situation happening. I got curious how I could transform this. It became clear to me that I was faced with an emotion being triggered from a past life.

Do you recognise the pattern in situations where every time the same emotion is being triggered?

Have you had this before in your life: that you notice an emotion that doesn’t make any sense for the recurring situation happening to you? And that there hasn’t happened a situation in your life with this person before, that could have caused to experience this emotion? I mean for example if you’ve never had a disagreement with someone before, it doesn’t make sense to feel deep anger inside every time you’re in a conversation with this person. It is possible that you’re experiencing an emotion from a past life here.

You’re presented by an emotion that’s ready to be released and healed in this life. And you will notice that in relationships with people like partners, siblings, parents, children, colleagues, and friends situations occur in your life that contain many emotions. The people the closest, the ones you love the most, will push the most buttons with you. And they will provide the most emotions to solve in this life so that you can finish karma from past lives with them. When you work on acknowledging these emotions and finding a way to release them, you can heal your past. You can break circles and patterns by doing this work on yourself. And that will make you feel lighter and more in contact with your heart and yourSelf.

It’s not always necessary to exactly know what the cause in a past life (or this life) was for the emotion you’re feeling in the present. If you want to break the circle or pattern, it’s a choice of free will to do so, and that choice is often enough to start transforming the situation. Of course it’s a good thing to meditate on what you need to know about the situation and if there’s anything you can learn from it for your personal growth. If you understand the lesson, you won’t experience the same situation again with this emotion. You’ll experience a neutral feeling instead. No trigger anymore.

For the above situation of my emotion being triggered in a conversation with my daughter, it was enough for me to get the insight that it stemmed from a past life. I went for a walk at the beach in the dark later that day and asked the universe for help to let go of the emotion and to heal the situation for good. At home I meditated further on this and was able to transform everything so I felt peaceful inside again. After this I’ve slept well and the day after I felt happy, peaceful inside and grounded.

I invite you to share a recurring situation or pattern you’ve noticed in your life where a specific emotion occurs that you’d like to change. Keep it short and I’m curious which emotion comes with the situation you’re experiencing. You can either leave a comment or send me an email.

A situation happens, at work or in your private life. You have several emotions and try to keep yourself standing in this situation. Afterwards you have many thoughts about what happened. They keep on circling around in your head. You want silence in your mind, but your thoughts seem to live their own life and don’t quiet down. It keeps you awake at night. In daytime it occupies you so much, that you’re not functioning well. Your vibration has gone low and you don’t seem to be able to increase it. You prefer to stay in bed and do nothing, because your head is so busy it consumes all your energy.

This is what’s happening with most of my clients who do the Take Back Control over your Life Program. A guided meditation or breathing exercises is only giving some relief for a little while. It can feel as if your mind is taking you over. Powerlessness is the experience. Thankfully there is a way to change your situation and have back the control again over your mind. This is how I work with clients:

Unravelling what’s happening in your head

Together we are unravelling what’s happening in your head. How does is it feel, how does it look like if you have to draw it? There are emotions connected to all events you’ve experienced. When these emotions aren’t completely released, the past event can’t be integrated completely. During your daily life you’ll experience that situations, words, or even smells can trigger emotions inside you. This means emotions come quickly to the surface again. It’s a message from your body that these emotions are ready to be released. It’s a positive sign. Now it’s up to you to take action upon this message of your body.

Face every emotion that you’re carrying inside you. Think about emotions as anger, sadness, fears, resentment, frustration, hurt and pain. Acknowledge every single emotion and allow it to be there. Where you might try to suppress it in daily life with food or addictions or escaping behaviour, you can better allow it to be there instead. Speak out loud what you feel with sentences like: “I feel …”.

Beliefs that block your happiness

I help you find out what beliefs you’ve created in every past event that is still blocking your happiness in your day-to-day life. For example: you could have decided to close your heart because ‘you can’t trust anyone’. See the impact of this belief here? Your heart is closed which means you can’t receive love, you can feel disconnected and unsupported. It’s important to release this belief and open your heart again. And of course to find out what it is you need to trust people again.

Every emotion you have released, will create more silence in your head. It’ll help you function well because you can focus and concentrate on tasks and get things done, you’ll sleep better, you’ll feel more energised, you’ll be more grounded with the earth, and you’ll feel lighter and happier. From here you can take actions to make your dreams come true and that’s what makes life interesting again. You’re a creator again, spreading your light and love to the world.

Do you want to make this change in your life too? I’m offering 3 FREE Explore your Happiness Sessions of approx. 30 minutes to discuss your personal situation and to give you some useful tips and advices how you can start changing your situation. Apply now through the form of this link:, and I’ll contact you within 24 hours to schedule your free session.

The last weeks I’ve had several clients with a bullying experience in their past. From being bullied at school, the workplace to being bullied by a relative. All situations where you can’t just walk away from. And as I often explain to my clients, if you e.g. change environment, it can happen again if the root cause inside you isn’t released. I prefer to see bullying as an opportunity to let go of a blockage and to step into your power. When you’re being bullied you feel powerless. When you’ve transformed the situation in yourself, you feel empowered. That’s what you need to focus on, cause it’ll be life changing for you.

So what happens if you’re being bullied? Another person pushes you’re buttons. In other words, emotions inside you are being triggered and come to the surface. For example anger or fears. Your mind will often go into thoughts like ‘why me?’, ‘it’s unfair’, ‘I’m not good enough’, or ‘nobody likes me’. These thoughts can go around in circles and spiral you down into a low vibration, which makes you even an easier target to bully.

The big question is of course how you can change this situation. It’s starting with the emotions and feelings you have. To acknowledge them and to allow them to be there. You probably tried to avoid them, maybe suppressed them with addictions like sugar, caffeine, smoking, or alcohol. You’ve noticed then that it only worked short term, because the feelings and emotions are still there and pop up again. The reason they come to the surface, is because they are ready to be released and they are helping you to let go and transform the situation.

It helps to say out loud what feelings and emotions you experience while allowing them to be there completely. By saying them out loud you give them a way out of your body. If you feel fears, say out loud what fears they are, e.g.: I’m scared that this will never stop, I’m afraid to not stand up for myself, I’m afraid to get hurt more, I’m afraid to be rejected by others, I’m scared to lose the people I love.

It’s important to come to forgiveness of the bully. To come to that point, you can scan inside your body what you still feel as resistant to forgive the bully. That resistance is what you still need to release first. Think about anger, maybe even hate, resentment, sense of righteousness or punishment. It can also help to see the little child in the bully, because their younger self is often emotionally hurt. A bully is someone who doesn’t feel loved, supported, or connected and they are very insecure deep inside, although they pretend to the outside world to be confident. Bullying someone else makes them feel better about themselves, because of the power. It gives the bully a sense of control where in their personal life, they don’t feel control about love, support or connection with their loved ones.

I also get children in my practice who are being bullied at school. The good part of this is that it can be transformed faster when it’s happening. When someone comes in as an adult and the bullying took place at primary school, then there’s often more work to do because they might have created many negative beliefs about themselves and the effects in life are bigger. Children are often very forgiving and it is fantastic to see how they stand in their power again with a huge increase in their self-esteem and confidence.

I’ve been bullied at high school myself. Not very long but I am sensitive and noticed that there was a building up of tension between two girls and me. I had talked with my mother about this tension I was sensing, and got her advice to just walk away from them and pretend it didn’t affect me. One day, when I did this, the two girls kicked me and I quickly left to go into the changing room. My sports teacher saw me leaving and came after me. We talked about what happened, and he must have talked to the two girls also. It never happened again. The advice of my mother hadn’t been a useful advice that worked for me, and that day I decided I would do what felt good for me, so being true to myself, and to stand up for myself and use my voice. This resulted even in becoming friends with one of the girls after this event.

It sounds maybe strange, but sending love and light in your thoughts to the bully helps to transform the situation too. It’s not what you would think of, but it is very effective. And of course you can ask your guides and angels to help you transform the situation into respect for each other and having removed all negative energy between the bully and you. If you’d like to work on transforming your experience of being bullied in the past into standing in your power again with increased self-esteem, I’m offering 3 Free Explore your Happiness Sessions of approx. 30 mins by phone to discuss your personal situation and give you some useful tips and advices how to release your feelings and emotions. Apply for a free session through this link and I’ll contact you within 24 hours to schedule an appointment for the phone call.

Since we’re out of isolation here in the Illawarra, I see an increase of clients with anxiety, depression, and relationship issues to breakups. Remarkable is also that a lot of men are seeking help to release emotions and to change patterns they’re experiencing.

The anxiety and depression were already present before isolation, but during isolation time fears have become bigger. Fear of the unknown, fear about the future, fear of losing your job, fear of not having enough money. And overwhelm of having to manage a complete new situation at home with work, the kids (and many suddenly had to educate their own kids as a home school teacher), and a partner at home for work too. It has definitely stretched many relations; the normal routine was gone, there were many tasks to do each day, and roles sometimes needed to change to keep the tasks equal between both partners. Some of my clients have felt unsupported, others felt frustrated.

Clients with a parent in an aged care facility suddenly couldn’t visit their parent any longer, and saw and felt how their parent couldn’t comprehend what was going on. It often made them feel heartbroken that they couldn’t do anything more than talking on the phone to their parent. It’s an extra stress where they already had their own challenges to cope to the new situation too.

At the other hand, I also have seen clients who told me how they grabbed last months’ situation as an opportunity. I’ve heard stories about losing a job and putting all effort into finding a new job or changing careers to a profession that had their interest and they had never dared to choose so far. I’ve received clients who used the situation to work on themselves by meditating, taking a step back from being overly busy with just their career, wanting to deal with old habits and feelings to become more authentic.

I’ve helped clients to release emotions of guilt so they could come to acceptance of the situation how it is, in some specific situations knowing there is nothing they can change for now (think about a parent in an aged care facility). So surrendering to the situation and not knowing what the future will bring. Just staying in the present, focusing on their own happiness and personal needs. For some it was finally a few months they had time for themselves and could rest after many years of long hours p/week for a career and always busy. They decided to connect more with nature and doing yoga at home, reading books and picking up a creative hobby.

Surrendering to the situation, and using the current situation as an opportunity, is the best to deal with what’s happening. Let me give an example of my own life; at the immediate start of isolation, it was very quiet in my business. Most people got very scared and suddenly had a new situation at home with their families. My sister asked if I wanted to join an online challenge for a business course, which we did together. This resulted in doing a 3 months’ course that kept me very busy besides the clients I had online sessions with. I’ve learned new skills and my bond with my sister has deepened because of sharing our journey together so intensely during the course. We’ve helped, supported, and encouraged each other, and applauded for achieved successes. My focus was on the course instead of worrying about finances when it was quieter in business with uncertainty when the situation would change to face-to-face sessions again. Looking back, it was a great opportunity and it has brought me so much.

Look back at what you’ve done in the past months. Have you seen or created opportunities for yourself? What did you learn? What has it brought you in life? Have you grown from it? Are you doing things differently than before? Have you found out that nurturing yourself became a higher priority and that it made you feel good? Write the things down that made you feel better and schedule them in your diary for as often as you need them (every day, once p/week or fortnightly or  once p/month) and stick to them. See it as an appointment with yourself. No excuses, not letting other people or situations take over the appointment you have with yourself. Do you feel that you’re having emotions and negative thoughts or patterns you want to change, but you can use some professional help to realise that? I give away 5 free Explore your Happiness Sessions to discuss your personal situation and give you some tips & advices how you can start. Apply for a free session through clicking on this link and filling out the form:

I work a lot with women who experience heartache after a relation break-up. When it has been a relation where they’ve experienced trauma, they often blame themselves for what has happened.

It’s important to look at what such an experience can teach you. There’s always some message in every situation what you have as a pain point that was triggered, and can be healed now.

Most of the time my clients discover there is an emptiness inside them, which creates a neediness from a partner to fill that hole (of emptiness) up with love. It means you’re looking outside yourself for love to fill up an emptiness inside yourself. But the only one who can fill up that emptiness is YOU.

When I bring a client to the root cause of that emptiness inside her, the situation can be healed and transformed and the hole of emptiness can be filled up with self-love. With no emptiness anymore, you’ll radiate to the world that you’re whole and complete. There’s no need to connect with a partner who has a hole inside too. You’ll attract a partner who also has a healed heart filled up with self-love. And that will bring you a complete different relationship. A relationship where you complement each other instead of completing each other. That’s a relation of a higher vibration with pure love.

Do you have an emptiness inside that you want to transform into feeling whole and complete? I invite you to apply for a free Explore your Happiness session through this link: I have 3 free sessions of approx. 30 mins to give away to discuss your situation and give you some advices what you can do to change your situation.

A client sometimes writes on her intake form that she just wants to be her old happy self again. She means the person who had energy to get a lot done in a day, was raising her children, was socialising with her friends once in a while, and could handle what was coming on her path. That person has changed after a traumatic experience and suddenly suffers from anxiety, negative thoughts, sleepless nights, feels down and has no energy. And still, I don’t think she’s wanting to be her old self again. Why? Here’s my vision on this.

A traumatic experience changes your life in many ways. There’s a shock moment that the impact of the situation hits you. This is where in your body a red alert flicks on and the message ‘not safe’ takes place and brings you in survival mode. The door of your future can close, which means your dreams won’t or can’t happen as you had in mind. Lots of uncertainties arise and fears of the unknown, fear of the future, fear if you can handle everything that will come on your path from now on, maybe fear of being alone or being different, fear of judgment of others about what happened and what you do from now on. It can decrease your self-esteem totally.

Depending on how heavy the traumatic experience was for you, it can take a lot of courage and work to heal from it. And during the healing process you’ll discover so much more about yourself in a conscious way; it brings you closer to knowing yourself and to become your true self. You release energy blockages and make choices if old behaviour, habits, and beliefs are still suiting you and your life and future, or if you want to change them and create new positive helpful behaviour, healthy habits and positive optimistic thoughts. You can decide to change your complete You into a new person you like better. That’s the opportunity connected to a traumatic experience.

Can you say after this healing transformation process that you have your old happy self back? You have found yourSelf but you are definitely not your old Self anymore. You’re the New You who integrated the traumatic experience and who has released a lot of energy blockages connected to the past. You have freed yourself from your past and have become a new person who lives her life from the connection with her heart; who feels worthy, deserving, and good about herself, who has clear boundaries about what she wants and how, and who communicates clearly about what she wants and is determined to take care of achieving what she wants. You dare to dream again and have clarity about what you need, what makes you happy, and what brings you energy and joy. You will feel safe and you will feel more at peace inside than before the traumatic experience.

If you’re ready to meet this New You in your life to create your new future that will make you happy and more fulfilled, I’d love to work together with you to realise this. I have 5 free sessions of approx. 30 minutes to offer that can take place in the week of 21-24th July. You can apply now on my website page: and I’ll contact you within 1 business day to schedule your free session.

In May 2016 I bought another car, a Ford Focus automatic. A few days before that, I had negotiated with the salesman at the car dealer about a Toyota Corolla, but we couldn’t close the deal with the budget I had to spend. After a test drive with the Ford Focus I decided to buy it. During the test drive there was a little ‘holding back’ when I accelerated onto the highway, but I thought it was nothing serious, just me driving for the first time in this car. I had no idea this car would bring me so much stress, a court case, and a release of a past life connection. I warn you it’s going to be a long article. Here we go…

Within the first months driving the Ford, I started noticing a mechanical issue. I won’t go into all the details, but 4 dangerous incidents and a lot of stress, worries, fears, discomfort, and powerlessness later, it turned out that my car had a well-known technical issue and there was even a class action against Ford Australia for this issue. After having tried to have Ford repair or give my money back for the car, I decided to join this class action.

I hadn’t heard anything after signing up, but one day I got a phone call from someone of the law firm. They had seen my uploaded files with evidence of what I had already undertaken as actions, and they were interested and invited me to compose an Affidavit. Mind you, I have never been in a court case, let alone in Australia, and I had never heard of Affidavit, so they first had to explain to me what it was.

After many phone calls and drafts, I travelled to Sydney to make the last changes and sign the document. What an experience. It felt like I was signing for my life. Every word and detail in the document needed to be the truth and facts.

Two months later I got a phone call that the case had changed and they wanted me to compose a new Affidavit; a more extended version with the emotional background of the impact of the technical issues with the car. Just to give you some idea of the situation: I bought the car 9 months after my husband passed away with the idea to have a safe car for my daughter and myself to drive another 10 years in. It was precious money that I spent on this car after trading in the old 4×4 drive we had been driving for a few years. Again composing the Affidavit was a stressful experience, and in the afternoon before I would get a surgery, I received it at 2 pm to read it, give the last changes, read it again, get it printed (it was about 60 pages), have it witnessed by a JP and scan it in to email it back before 5 pm. It looked impossible, but I asked the universe to help get it done and just after 6 pm, I had it all emailed back.

The court case was postponed and rescheduled several times over the years. In the meantime 10 000s of car owners had joined the class action against Ford. I was one of the more than 50 people who had submitted an Affidavit.

Recently I got informed that Ford was calling all people who had submitted an Affidavit, to appear to testify. I started to become nervous about this but didn’t know why this felt so scary. I thought it was all because I had never been in a court case before. Thankfully due to the Corona virus the court case would be online through Zoom. I received a subpoena to testify and I was scheduled in for 30th June. I truly did my best to not even think about that day because there happened so much in my body, that I didn’t understand. When a short thought about the testifying popped up in my mind, I felt shivers, stress in my head, a tightness in my body, sometimes even a short chattering of my teeth. I felt a huge responsibility for all the car owners in the class action. The responsibility went way further than just my own car. A few days after the subpoena was delivered, I had a call on Zoom to test my connection so everything would work fine during the court case. No problem for me, because I am a Zoom user so knew how to deal with that thankfully.

Last week on Monday round 4.30 pm I received a phone call from the lawyer office that the testifying was brought forward and not everyone needed to testify anymore, but I did, and was expected to testify on Tuesday or Wednesday, but most likely it would be Wednesday. We scheduled a video call with the barrister who would be with me in the Zoom court room to go through my Affidavit and to prepare me what you need to do when you are testifying, like speaking out an affirmation, telling your name, calling the judge Your Honour, etc. It was really good to know all this, because it made me feel more confident what to expect. After the call I had chattering teeth and shivers and I felt I freaked out. Again, I didn’t understand why this was happening, why my physical reaction to the court case was so strong. I had to cry and was overwhelmed with emotions. I couldn’t place what was happening. An hour later I would join an online meditation, and I hoped that would calm me down.

The opposite happened; as soon as the meditation started, I relaxed more and immediately the emotions came to the surface. The tears followed, I switched off the camera, and allowed the tears to come out. I tried to focus on the guided meditation. The guidance was that people would appear in the meditation, and I saw a few people I love, and at the end of a path I saw my late husband who gave me a hug in the meditation. We came in a building and we would get information about past lives while sitting at a table. I had Jan sitting next to me at that table, and at the left side of me another person I love, but no information came to me. The emotions rose high and I was sobbing. I chose to leave the guided meditation and let the emotions come out. Here I was sitting in my room, no idea why I was so incredibly emotional. Every time when a thought about the court case and testifying came in my mind, I freaked out. It became clear to me that this wasn’t a normal reaction of just the court case now, but this was a past life connection. It felt like I was going to die, but I was safe in the present time. My logical sense told me that it was too uncontrollable to be a reaction for my life now. So here I was experiencing emotions from a past life connected to testifying about a technical issue of my car, but further no clarity of any details. How could I solve this?

A while later, my friend Elida texted me why I had left the guided meditation. She thought I had a technical issue with the online connection maybe, so I called her and told her about the past life connection I was experiencing. She channelled for me a message that brought clarity; the past life was about a battle where I was a leader of a large group of women on a battlefield against men. Many women lost their lives and I took my own life to honour all the women who had lost their lives in the battle. The class action contains souls who were in that battle of the past life and my testifying was as ‘the leader’ from the past life standing up for all these souls again. I felt responsible for all the others in the class action as the group that I would be representing and I wanted to succeed. The message was that this time, so in this life, I would be successful. Wow, this was big. It made more sense with the emotions I was feeling and calmed me down.

I had wondered from the moment the problems with my car started, if I had made a mistake buying the car; hadn’t I listened carefully enough to my intuition?, hadn’t I noticed the signs the universe had brought on my path?, had the salesman used my innocence? With this new info about the past life connection, I got an answer that I could let go of all questions in one time. I was meant to have this car so I could heal the past life experience. I had to testify as a leader and be successful in this life. I was safe now and would survive.

I couldn’t sleep though. My bowel was making lots of noises and movements (pure stress reaction), and I had a terrible headache at my forehead and behind my eyes till 3 am, when I got the insight that it was the cause of death I was experiencing from that past life; how I had taken my own life. It could have been a bullet in my head exploding or something like that. Straight after that insight, the headache disappeared; obviously I needed to be made conscious about what it was.

The next day I had client sessions and was busy. In the evening I sat down to read my three Affidavits, compared info of them and discovered some corrections to have all info with the same details. I am very precise in these things, especially when I have to testify that it is the truth. I didn’t want to give Ford Australia any chance to question me about details that were not the same in my Affidavits. I sent an email with the last corrections to my barrister close to midnight and with a sigh of relief I went to sleep.

I slept fine but a bit short. The next morning I had a phone call with my barrister at 9.45 am till 10 am and that was the time the court case started again for that day. A bit stressful at the last moment yes, but good to know that the barrister and I agreed on the corrections. Suddenly I got a call and had to login and the testifying started. No time to think further. I was in the court room on Zoom and answered all questions of the barrister representing Ford Australia. I got feelings and thoughts in my mind with her questions, I understood where she was going, but I had to stick to answering the questions factually and not go into an emotion. I succeeded and an hour later, I left the court room online. When I pressed the button ‘leave’ on my screen, the clock turned into 11:11. Beautiful sign from the universe. And then the emotional catharsis came.

It was a big release. I took a deep breath and everything that had been carried by my soul of that past life, came out uncontrollably. I experienced myself making sounds with my throat I hadn’t experienced before, my body was shaking as if I was freezing to death, my teeth were chattering load and I thought it would be better if I would have been able to put something between my teeth to bit on. That’s how hard they were chattering. After a while it became quiet, and I took a few deep breaths. And the next wave of emotions came out. Again with shaking and loud chattering teeth and crying. Here I was sitting, all alone, in my room, having a huge catharsis of a past life. Seriously, if someone would see me, they would probably have called the ambulance and in hospital they would have submitted me to the mental ward 😊. This physical, emotional and spiritual release is something a doctor wouldn’t understand. They would give you tranquillizers or Valium, but that was not what I needed. I needed to let it all come out until it was gone.

An hour later I was feeling that the last wave of emotions had been released. I felt like myself again and calm inside, settled. I decided to go for a beach walk. While walking towards the beach, I asked for a sign if I had been successful with my testifying. During my walk I suddenly discovered a rainbow looking at the lighthouse at the harbour. I stood still for a while to take this unexpected rainbow in and thanked the universe after taking a photo of the rainbow.

That night I slept amazingly long; 10 hours! The next two days I took it easy with a lot of meditating, administration work in my office, and catching up with a friend. I felt so much better and everything in my life started flowing better, felt easier and lighter, as if tasks didn’t cost a lot of effort. I ticked off lots of tasks from my things-to-do list and felt back in control.

In another channelled message through my friend Elida I got to hear that with the past life release, I had healed a big hole in my heart. I had loved the women I led in the battlefield more than I had loved myself. That was healed now. And Elida had been with me in the battlefield of that past life.

It was quite an experience and I am super glad it’s behind me. I’m also proud of how I’ve released everything. Even though the decision of the judge about the court case can take another 13 months from now, I have let it all go. I trust the universe will have justice celebrate.

If you are experiencing strong feelings and emotions in your life that you’d like to get rid of so you’ll feel relaxed and empowered again, I’d like to offer 5 people a free session of half an hour with me. In this free session I’ll give you a few valuable tips & advices what you can do to create the relaxation and take back the control in your life again. You can apply for a free session through an email or PM to me.

Contact with a family member or friend has stopped years ago after a situation happened. Maybe the other said something that hurt you, or behaved towards you in a way that hurt or disappointed you. Maybe you’ve said a sentence or behaved in a way back that you regret or feel guilty about. And sometimes it can even be such a small thing, that it’s kind of silly to have no contact any longer because of such littleness. It can be stubbornness or you’re still having many questions in your head about what happened that caused this situation. Fact is that both parties are left with emotions after the situation in the past and the emotions get triggered thinking about each other, resulting in a disconnection that could last forever if no one takes action.

I’ve had a client who lost the contact with his adult children after a funeral of his parents. He had asked a favour to one of one of them and didn’t understand why it had been too much to do the favour. Looking back the tone in his voice had probably caused the whole disconnection between them. His child showed up at the funeral but was staying on a distance. My client felt abandoned and hurt.
The other child had planned a year abroad and he would leave a few days before the funeral. My client wanted him to leave after the funeral and offered to pay for changing the ticket. His child decided to go as planned. My client felt disappointed and hurt.

After releasing the emotions in his body plus the belief that my client had created of not being good enough as a dad to his children, the anxiety about the disconnection with his children had transformed into feeling calm. He could forgive his children and himself for what had happened and set them all free. He had tried during the past years to contact both children by phone, but they didn’t answer his calls. It was time for a new approach.

We came to an action plan of sending a personal email to both of his children and writing from his heart about what he had felt, and he would share with them that he had worked on himself by releasing emotions about the whole situation. He would explain his wish to reconnect again and be a father and friend in their lives if they let him. And he would invite them separately for a cup of coffee in a café with a day and time to talk about their feelings and to find a way to leave the past behind and make a new start again with their relation.

We both thought that a personal email with explanation of my client’s feelings and apologies to one of them would give the opportunity to his children to re-read the message, let it sink in, and have the opportunity to choose wisely if they wanted to accept the invitation to meet. It gave them freedom to choose instead of being confronted with a phone call of which they didn’t know the intention. Seeing their dad’s name in the phone screen possibly triggered old feelings that made them avoid to answer the call. Now they could read the openness and honesty of their dad about his feelings and hopefully that will open them up to accept the invitation and talk about their feelings too.

My client felt confident and empowered about this plan and to take this action. It gave him a feeling of moving forward again to hopefully a good outcome and meeting both his children to talk as adults about the situation. He’ll visualise the meetings with his children, the openness and honesty in the conversation with them and how wonderful it feels to reconnect again in his dad role. I’ve asked many angels to help them to make this wish come true.

Do you also have emotions (and maybe beliefs about yourself) after a situation in the past, that are still blocking a relationship with loved ones? And do you want to change this into a healthy relationship again? You can work on your part so that you can stay calm and in your power, giving an opening to the other to heal too and hopefully reconnect together. I’d like to offer five people a free session of approx. 30 minutes to give you some tips and advices about how you can change your situation. You can apply for a free session through the contact form on my website home page for a free session or by commenting on this article.

My cousin asked me a question that I thought would be good to share with you. It was about being super sensitive and what she could do to get rid of energies after reading or hearing other people’s stories. Do you recognise that you’re like a sponge absorbing the energies of other people’s stories with all emotions (fears, sadness, anger) and heaviness?

I advised my cousin to send the energies back to the sender transformed in love and light. Or to send it to the universe where it’ll be transformed in love and light. She replied she noticed she had difficulties sending it back.

When you are a ‘giver” you want to help others and feel a resistance sending their energies back because it’s energy with a load, a blockage like the emotions fear, sadness and anger. It’s heavy energy and you can feel terrible to send it back, because you think they are already having enough to deal with and you don’t want to add more. You are kind of sacrificing yourself to keep their energy and trying to make it lighter for the other person. But sacrificing yourself with absorbing more and more energies of others, will result in being full of other people’s energies and not feeling your own energy anymore. You can’t feel yourself anymore which means you can’t make decisions, can’t focus nor concentrate, and don’t know what you like or do not like any longer. You’ve lost yourself.

See other people’s energies as their responsibilities. You don’t need to sacrifice yourself to absorb their energies. It’s not empowering for the other person. They have to learn from their experiences and they have to deal with their own energies. Everybody gets what they can handle, even if it feels unfair and impossible in your eyes. You don’t want to take away the learning experience and personal growth experience of the other person, even though you maybe love them very much. The best thing you can do is help them to empower themselves. You can offer help and they have a choice if they’ll accept help or not.

If you feel you’ve taken on energies of other people, send it with your intentions back to the sender transformed in love and light. That last part is important because the other person at least receives his/her own energy back as love and light, instead of the heavy blockage. You’ve helped them a little bit with that and you’ll feel your own energy again so you can focus on your life and your happiness.

Are you sensitive and do you absorb other people’s energies like a sponge? Do you often feel like you can’t ‘feel’ yourself, your own energy anymore? I can help you change that. I’d like to offer 5 people a free session of approx. 30 mins where we can talk about what you experience in daily life around your sensitivity and I can give you some valuable tips & advices how you can change this. Apply at this page link if you’d like a free session of approx. 30 minutes, and I’ll contact you within 24 hours to book in an appointment for your free session by phone.

Years after having lost a dearly loved one, you can still be confronted with grief that comes to the surface. It can be overwhelming, but know that it comes to the surface because it’s ready to be released. It’s actually a message from your body that this grief part wants to go, that it’s time, and that it’s okay to do so.

But can you let it go, or are you afraid to let it go because it feels like you’re going to lose the connection with your loved one then too? This feels like an internal battle between wanting to let it go and holding on to it, afraid to lose the connection.

I’d like to share with you first, that the opposite can be the case too. While my late husband had chosen for sedation and everybody was waiting for his departure, he struggled with leaving because he was scared to lose our strong connection. He knew about my work as a medium and that I can connect with spirit and loved ones, but he was scared that he couldn’t connect with me after his departure. I’ve assured him that he only had to ask for Archangel Michael to help him connect and communicate with me, because Michael would be happy to teach him. And that I was sure we would be able to connect and communicate, but I didn’t know how long it would take to establish this.

Two days later Archangel Michael gave me the message that ‘Jan had arrived safely’ [in the Light]. When I finally had a holiday half a year later, and was totally relaxed, I had my first profound communication with Jan the last night in my holiday house. I saw him standing at my foot end and have chatted with him telepathically the whole night. I don’t recall anything of our conversation, but it was an amazing experience that filled my heart with love and warmth. So the connection was still there, communication was happening, and he confirmed he was always with me and I could ask him for help whenever I needed that.

Back to the fear of losing the connection with your loved one. You won’t lose the connection – it’s just finding out how the new way of connecting will be. But your loved one won’t leave you. It’s their soul that leaves their earthly body, but the soul is alive and continues living. They know exactly what’s happening in your life. They are often visiting you without you even knowing it.

You can practise to connect with your loved one yourself. The biggest challenge is often to quiet your own mind. The way your loved one connects, is telepathically, so when you think of them or their name, they are already with you. Ask them to give you signs in your daily life of their presence or help – e.g. their name or nickname, their favourite number or birthdate, the fragrance of their perfume or after-shave, a song they loved, their favourite colour, etc. Watch in nature too for signs every time you think about them, because the same type of bird, butterflies or dragonflies can appear as a sign too.

After reading the above, do you still want to hold on to grief that has come to the surface, afraid to lose the connection with your loved one? If you hold on to it, the grief is blocking the experience of pure love with your loved one on a deeper level. And isn’t love the biggest present you can give yourself? Love is the strongest healing possible.

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