Candle of love

Earlier this week I was meditating and connecting to Archangel Michael, when he unexpectedly announced Jan, my late husband, wanted to come through. It’s always nice to receive a message from Jan. I had been meditating on what I should write about as my monthly article. Jan said to me: “Write about Love. Tell about us.” I thought that was a brilliant idea, since it’s a special week for us. So here I go.

Last Sunday it was 7 years ago my daughter Esmee and I entered Australia. We came to start a new life here and on 11th November 2011 Jan and I got married. So yes, exactly one week after I entered Australia. This Sunday it’s my wedding anniversary. Some people think this is a difficult day for me with sad feelings. Not at all! It’s a festive day of celebrating our Love. And I can tell you that our Love was and is beautiful. Jan and I had a very deep bond on soul level, and it deepened even further when we lived together here in Australia. Our love was unconditional. And you know the best part of this Love? It is still is beautiful, deep and unconditional.

Jan was very scared to depart from this planet because he didn’t want to lose our strong connection. I had to convince him that our bond would stay and that he would find a way to connect with me from Heaven. He would be able to connect through Love with my heart. I told him he could ask Archangel Michael to help him to connect with me because I work daily with this Archangel. Also I reassured Jan that I connect with deceased loved ones in readings so that’s how he would know to find a way to connect with me too. He knew me the best!

When Jan started his journey, I felt his energy fading away into the sky. He didn’t go straight up in the sky, but he went in a very long angle in the distance. Then I couldn’t feel his energy any longer. It was like a temporary disconnection. It gave me a bit of stress, but I knew he was on his journey and I would feel him again in time but in a different way.

And that happened. Two days later I received a message from Archangel Michael that he had arrived safely. I was happy with this message. It’s always great to hear a confirmation that everything is going according to plan. And Jan managed to pass on a message through my colleague and friend the day after. With all the grief and so many things I needed to arrange in half a year time, I took the time in December 2015 on a summer holiday week, to try to connect with him on a deep level.

He was there with me absolutely! The last night in the holiday house, I asked him if he was there. Then I suddenly knew he was standing at my foot end. We started to talk telepathically and it was so cool and awesome, that I didn’t want to stop. Jan floated from standing at the foot end to sitting next to me at the side of my mattress and we chatted the whole night. I don’t recall what we’ve talked about, but it was such a big experience and it was healing too.

Then at home with Christmas I got my first clairvoyance experience with him. I saw him standing before my TV in the evening. It was not seeing him as how I see a living person, it was more a silhouette of him with the knowing it was him and sensing his energy. And I felt so much Love. A few days later I saw him again in my living room, but only a second.

When he talks to me, he always tells me how he loves me and that he always will love me. An explanation for this is that Love doesn’t stop when you cross over. The soul continues living and the love connection with your heart remains. When you’re grieving, the heart is filled with emotions and often the mind with questions and lots of thoughts, which makes it difficult to feel the Love connection. But when you work on your emotions to clear your heart, and go through the phases of grief, you create possibilities to connect with your loved one in Heaven and you can receive the experience to connect yourself.

Love is the highest vibration of energy. It’s the purest and it heals. Love is always there. It’s available for everyone and everyone is deserving of Love too. Ask your guides and angels or the Creator to open your heart to receive Love and fill yourself up with it, send it to every cell of your body. You can use this sentence also: “Thank you for realigning me with Love.”

Sunday 11th November is my 7th wedding anniversary and just like the past 3 years, I’ll hold the Light a Candle Action again. This is what Jan advised me to do after his crossing over, to celebrate our wedding anniversary. I’ll light a candle that day to celebrate the Love between Jan and me and I’ll give the intention to the candle and flame to spread our Love over the world and to connect this Love with other people who join me in lighting their candle with the same intention. I want to make a big circle of lights spreading Love and every year this action gets bigger with more people joining. I invite you to join and let me know about your participation below through a message. On the 11th I’d love to see a photo of your candle also if you’d like to share that on my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/AstridBootHealer/ or in a PM. Thank you so much for joining and spreading Love!

 
 

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The last month I have had so many female clients with sexual abuse trauma. First of all, it’s great to see these women making the decision to change their lives and free themselves from their past. It’s a true honour to assist them in releasing their traumatic experiences and transforming them into positive, supportive thoughts in their mind and taking actions to live a happier life.

Secondly, it’s amazing how brave these women are, and have been. They have carried an inner child with them that is scared to death, is often walking on eggshells in life, pleasing the world to avoid people getting mad at her and because of this the child has lost the connection with its Self. These women don’t have boundaries because of what has happened and notice in life that people take advantage of them by crossing their boundaries and using their kindness and pleasing nature.

The inner child has often created beliefs that are limiting, and has taken full blame for what has happened on herself, even though she knows it wasn’t her fault. Her boundaries were crossed without being able to defend herself. It was often in a situation with a person she trusted too, so her faith in people has been damaged too. The safe haven of protection she believed she was in as a child, has been broken. Safety turned out to be not safe anymore. How do you protect yourself when you’re a young, insecure, small child?

Imagine how your belief of being worthy is changed by a traumatic experience like sexual abuse. When you have taken full blame of what happened to you (often a result of adults telling you that it was your fault), you’ve taken on the responsibility that isn’t yours, also. In a spiritual therapy session we always work on expressing all emotions, feelings and thoughts to the perpetrator and also telling the perpetrator how they want to be treated from now on (this can mean they never want to see the perpetrator anymore), sending back all energy from the traumatic experience to the perpetrator, and then a very important one: calling back their own power, energy and all parts of themselves. This is a huge energy exchange and feels very powerful. Most of the time, I can sense the shift with this calling back of their own power, and owning their power and feeling complete and whole again.

Of course it’s hard to come to forgiveness, but all my clients have come to the insight that unforgiveness keeps them stuck and attached to the past trauma. They have come to forgiving their perpetrator fully, not because they approve what they did to them, but because they want to move on with life. And this forgiveness is still possible in cases where the perpetrator is deceased in the meantime. After forgiveness, my clients came to full forgiveness of themselves for what had happened including their feelings, emotions and thoughts & beliefs as a result of the traumatic experience. They have set themselves free. A weight has been lifted off their shoulders. They felt literally lighter, the heaviness was removed. They found back the connection with themselves, and their heart. It’s still a way to go, because they have to learn to set their boundaries, protect their boundaries by communicating clearly and standing up for what they want. This goes in steps, but is a rewarding process because they gain confidence with every step they take.

The adult client helps the inner child, tells her she’s loved and appreciated, and beautiful, and worthy and deserving, and safe from now on. The inner child receives love and gets a new safe place when being integrated with my client to be one.

I believe it’s amazing how these women have taken back their lives in their own hands. It makes my day to see a woman leaving after a spiritual therapy session with a lighter energy, a softer, more relaxed skin in their face, a personal space around them, and being way more grounded to mother earth, but also with new hope for a happier life and a new opportunity to achieve their goals. They had put themselves at the bottom of their priority list and have now moved themselves to the top of their priority list. They understand how important it is to take excellent care of themselves, to nurture their body and mind and to give love to themselves. And this is exactly the lesson for everyone on the planet earth: love yourself and enjoy life as much as possible. Do the things you like and that make you happy. Be grateful for what you have, dream big and take action steps to achieve your dreams. You can do it. You have everything you need inside yourself. You are a beautiful person and you deserve everything and only the best.

Last Monday evening I was just home from an interesting Vision board workshop and super excited about my created vision board, when I walked down the stairs with my garbage to put it in the bins outside. At the 1st floor the light in the stairwell wasn’t working and it was very dark. It looked like I had only one step to take to the 1st floor and I put my right foot down, but it turned out to be two steps to take. I heard a very long rupturing sound in my ankle and I fell. I had a few really loud cries of pain and I couldn’t stand on my right foot anymore. It was very clear for me that there was something very wrong with my ankle but I could move my foot a tiny bit to the right, left, front and back, so it wasn’t broken. I crawled up the stairs again to my apartment and called my daughter when I opened the door. I hopped on one leg to the couch and put my leg on a stool. My ankle was already swelling fast…

I have my essential oils at home so immediately applied Copaiba to ease the pain, Helichrysum for the bruise and Ice Blue rub to help with the pain and inflammation. I later received info that Frankincense was really good to apply for healing too, so I added that.

An x-ray the next day showed my ankle was sprained and a tendon had pulled a piece of my bone. I still couldn’t stand on my foot and got crutches to be able to move myself around in my house. My GP advised to use painkillers like Panadol or paracetamol, but my friend who took me there, already replied: “She won’t use that.” I am quite determined to only use natural remedies for my health. And so far I haven’t used any toxic pain relief, only Copaiba oil applied on my hurt ankle. The other oils sooth and help the healing process, so I keep applying them. I can slowly walk around a bit, but some movements give a quick pain response as a sign that that particular move is not supposed to be happening yet. It’s a matter of keeping as much rest as possible with my leg up. Not handy in one of the busiest weeks I had scheduled, but the positive side is that my injury brought some extra time at home to study and take actions online for my business.

Also the oils that I’m using have a high frequency and help my transformation process and make me feel good. Although my ankle is swollen and has the colours blue-purple-red, and can be painful when the Copaiba needs to be applied again, I feel happy and have worked with clients during the week (I only had to cancel one day of appointments). I can only do my work when I feel good and my energy is in a good vibration for doing energy work. A big benefit from essential oils which are a pure nature’s solution.

If you’d like to learn more about how essential oils can help you and your family in supporting your health, wellbeing and living a toxic-free life, contact me to make an appointment for a free consult. I’d love to teach you which oils there are to assist you and your family.

This personal experience is about how you can be guided, and when you make a decision to leave an old situation, the new situation can occur rapidly (faster than you can imagine!) and you just have to follow your guidance and take every next step. And when you look back, you can see it was all meant to be.

Early July I had an operation and I had planned to take the time to recover in a relaxed way. Three years ago I was in a very stressful situation and had an emergency surgery of which I couldn’t recover in the way I wanted because of all the circumstances. This time, I was going to do it differently and in the right way for my body. It turned out to be necessary, because I was exhausted before my operation of preparing everything in the house and with my work. I was not allowed to lift (weight) after the operation so my house got a spring cleaning before I went into hospital.

I had set the intention before my operation that this would be the last thing to fix my health after three years of many mystery infections and fatigue because of the traumatic event of losing my husband. I wanted to close the health chapter and live that healthy life I longed for and had worked so hard to achieve. My health had improved so much, I finally had a good energy level of fitness back and I was so ready to live the life I wanted to have.

The first week after my operation I slept like a baby. Long nights of 12 hours. But in daytime easily again one or two naps of an hour. It was lovely to give this rest to my body and to not needing to do anything. I had given myself 10 days off working with clients. When I started working again, it became busy immediately with new client appointments. Evidence for me that the universe had heard my wish and was helping me with living the life I wanted. Part of my wish was to expand my business, so it was happening.

Then unexpectedly I received confirmation about my next step and it was to move house. I hadn’t seen this one coming! I cut the cords to my house, address and property where I was living. I followed my guidance without questioning, and acted upon the message. I took the decision to move as fast as possible. I wanted to be in a place with the right energy for me to move on with my new plans to expand my business. The old place didn’t match with that plan anymore.

The whole evening I looked online to which places were available. I decided when we would move, we would go for a place in the area of my daughter’s preferred high school also. Thankfully it was school holiday, so the next day we inspected three places. After leaving the first one, I asked my daughter what she thought of it. She said it felt so good there. I shared with her that I had exactly the same feeling! The place felt like home. It was an apartment and I’ve never in my life lived in an apartment before, but if it felt like the right place, then I would act upon it. We looked at two other places that day; they were bigger (but older and less maintained) and cheaper, but they didn’t feel right. That evening I decided to apply for the first apartment. We handed in the papers the next morning and received a phone call in the afternoon that we were accepted as the new tenants! So within 48 hours we found a new place to live in that felt good and the right one for us. This was definitely guided and meant to be! And it turned out that the new real estate agent is very spiritual too. Beautiful work universe.

By the way, when I picked up my daughter from a holiday workshop, I held all her art works in my hands and then told her she was going to her preferred high school. She literally jumped in the air of excitement, and immediately understood we had gotten the place we applied for.

So here my plan of a restful recovery changed immediately. There was a move to prepare. In between the client appointments I was organising the move administratively, but also we went through all our belongings to throw out everything we didn’t need anymore. For our new place we didn’t need any tools for gardening anymore, so we cleared all that and made other people happy with it. We let go of a lot of our belongings and it felt really good.

From the day I received the key, I drove up to the new place with containers and boxes. It was quite tiring to walk up and down all the stairs. And remember this was the time I was supposed to recover from an operation. I decided the moving job needed to be done, so I had to go for it. I had some help with a big load which was wonderful. I cleaned in the new place and I already loved being there. It felt light and happy.

The big moving weekend was a week ago. I had asked around for help of strong people to move all furniture up the stairs and had great help. Also inside the house I had fantastic help from friends who helped my daughter with the kitchen, her bedroom and the living room. Saturday evening most of the house was already liveable and Sunday evening all boxes were unpacked and we were finding a place for everything that was left over. Sunday morning when my friend and I decided to give it a try to get my washing machine out of the laundry up the steep hill, over the fence wall into the trailer, I slipped on the steep hill on the grass while pushing the trolley with the washing machine, and the washing machine shuffled dangerously from the trolley. Thankfully my friend got back control and we managed to move the washing machine to the new place. It was truly a miracle to have done this together. I really believe I had some extra strong angel arms pushing with me up the steep hill.
I drove a few times extra to the Salvos the past week, to bring more belongings that we didn’t need anymore. I also cleaned the old place and enjoyed doing that. It felt good to leave the place neatly (way neater than how I found it when I moved in almost three years ago). And it was a new experience to crawl on hands and knees into the bins to clean them J.

We have settled in our new place and I’m ready to continue working with clients again. The new place has a very nice energy and my daughter and I feel at home here. She even said yesterday that it’s only a week we live here, but that it feels like a month already. We’ve met more people in the building and they’re all so nice and friendly. I can only confirm that universe had this huge idea of moving house so close after my operation, but I acted upon the guidance and it feels as the start of a new chapter in my life and I’m ready for it! I’m curious what my doctor this week with the check up after the operation will answer, when I tell that I moved house and how I have lifted weight with all the boxes up and down the stairs. Not to forget pushing my washing machine up the steep hill at my old place! I’m scheduling new workshops and will keep it in small groups so that I can give personal attention to everyone. Also I am working on a new offer for personal transformation, which I will announce soon.

Imagine how it would be to have Peace of Mind. It’s such a blessing to experience this! But most of the time my clients tell me they experience thoughts going round in circles and they don’t know how to stop their thoughts. It’s like the same thoughts keep on swirling in their head but can’t find a way out. What does this cause in their daily lives? First of all: sleeping problems like difficulties falling asleep or waking up in the middle of the night and difficulties to fall asleep again. And besides sleeping issues, a busy mind can cause anxiety, sometimes even depression. A very unpleasant experience that you definitely want to change. So how can you free yourself of all these thoughts and achieve peace of mind?

The first thing to start with, is to acknowledge the busyness in your mind. Acknowledge your thoughts going round. Then focus on these thoughts. Are they about one specific subject or situation, or are they like a things-to-do list? Write down what thoughts you’re experiencing in your mind. Write down your things-to-do list so that you can start taking the actions to tick them off one by one until your list is done. If your thoughts are about situations in your life, write them down and focus further on them. What feelings and emotions are connected to these situations? In general you probably have feelings and emotions related to fears, anger or sadness. Feel what you’re afraid, angry or sad about and say it out loud. Sense what it does to you when you say it out loud. It will clear your mind. Continue this process till your head is ’empty’, till you’ve achieved peace of mind. Now expand this peace of mind feeling to every cell in your body. Feel the blessing.

Sometimes there can be other reasons for not having peace of mind, like not having balance in your life between work and private life or between work and relaxation or exercise/movement. Figure out what your body needs and take actions to change your life so you’ll have that balance, relaxation and exercise/movement in your life again. In meditation you can go with your attention to your heart and ask what your body needs and how you can achieve that. The answers can be surprising!

Your busy mind can cause health issues too like digestive problems. And did you know heavy metals like lead, mercury and aluminium can be present in your body but also in your head? Cilantro/Coriander is a perfect herb to eat in salads, or to use in juices or smoothies to detox from heavy metals in your body. You’ll notice heightened energy, greater clarity, an improved complexion, and a more positive mood. I’m using doTERRA Cilantro oil on a daily base and fresh Coriander in my salads and feel my energy level has increased and I have a clearer mind.

Of course you can use other essential oils in a diffuser to help you relax and make you calmer. Really good oils to assist you in this process are Lavender, Ylang Ylang but also Balance (to ground you instead of being constantly in your head with your energy).

Going into nature is a great way to achieve peace of mind too. You can give the intention that the sea, mountain or trees will absorb all the busyness in your mind, all your worries and fears, and help you ground again.

And meditating is a great way to get a calmer mind. Especially a guided meditation like a mindfulness meditation is helpful, because it focuses on your breathing which helps you ground well and achieving a quiet mind. But you can also just observe your thoughts as clouds in your head, see them drifting by and disappear until there are no clouds in your head anymore.

If you’d like assistance in the process of releasing all the busyness in your mind to achieve peace of mind and feel the blessing of having peace of mind, I’m happy to assist you in a spiritual therapy session. Feel free to contact me for more information or to book an appointment.

When clients tell me they have gained weight the last years and aren’t happy with the weight gain, they often ask me for advices how they could lose the weight and if I could help them in the weight losing process. I always explain there can be many factors behind the weight gain and with which factors I can assist to solve this. Here are the most common ones that came on my path through my clients but also privately.

The emotional side

I can definitely assist with the emotional side of weight gain. If you have experienced a difficult situation as a loss, divorce, illness, or something traumatic, it’s possible that you still have feelings, emotions and beliefs that are blocking you in life. These blockages can literally cause weight gain, because the natural energy flow is blocked in your body. If you do a spiritual therapy session I’ll assist you in discovering which blockages you still have, releasing them and transforming blocking beliefs into positive affirmations for yourself and your life. I have seen many clients working on themselves with the help of spiritual therapy and losing weight spontaneously because their self-esteem increased and they felt stronger to make healthy choices in life. But of course there can be more causes for weight gain, so let me sum up a few more.

Hormonal balance and stress

Your hormonal balance can be a cause of weight gain also. Look at your life and find out what is out of balance. Do you have a balance between work and relaxation? Do you nurture yourself enough with quality time to ‘recharge your energy levels’? Do you have stability in your life as safety for your present situation and your future? How is your sleeping pattern; do you fall asleep easily, do you sleep a whole night in one go, do you sleep about 8 hours each night, do you feel vital and rested when you get up? Do you have stress in your daily life, and how do you cope with this stress? Do you meditate, go into nature, or visit a practitioner to release your stress? Or do you (binge) eat to suppress it? If you binge eat, or eat extra sugar, sauer, or fat (also dairy fats) to suppress your feelings of stress, you’ll gain weight and even feel worse, often guilty or regretful about the snacks and extra eating.

Physical health

Is your thyroid working well? If your thyroid works too fast or too slow, this can affect your metabolism. And is there maybe a disease that could cause weight gain? Visit your health practitioner to get tests for this if you think this is the case for you.

It’s possible you have infections in your body. Parasites or worms and other infections can cause problems in your body and I’ve personally experienced that I had infections causing weight gain. When I had treated the infections with natural medication, my weight went down. This last part (natural medication) is important too, because when you’ve had lots of antibiotics in your life, your gut health can have gone downhill which can have caused weight gain. Here you can work on strengthening your gut health and immune system again.

You can also have deficiencies. The most common are: iron, magnesium, zinc, vitamin B/C/D, and iodine. Deficiencies can cause lots of problems in your body including sleeping problems (think about restless legs that wake you up in the middle of the night). This can become a circle of being overly tired, and starting to eat more snacks that cause weight gain. A deficiency of calcium, zinc, and magnesium can also cause a craving for sugar, so make sure you take supplements for the deficiency instead of eating foods that increase your weight.

Healthy food and drinks

The best start is to quit sugar and processed food in your life. Start reading labels of what you buy, inform yourself what ingredients your food contains. It’s best to buy organic food, so it doesn’t contain chemicals.

It’s important to eat fresh vegetables and fruit every day. If you eat a snack in the morning and afternoon, it’s best to have a piece of fruit here too or some nuts. Cold press juices or smoothies are good drinks and also breakfast options. A healthy diet for most sensitive people’s body is also gluten free because most sensitive people react on gluten in a negative way. Think about when you’ve eaten bread or pasta and how ‘full’ your stomach feels. That’s because of the gluten. It’s easy to find out if your body has a reaction to gluten; when you don’t eat gluten for 1-2 weeks, and you feel better (e.g. clearer in your mind, better stools, more energy), this is your evidence that you can better not eat gluten anymore.

How do you feel when you eat? Do you have thoughts like ‘this is bad for me’? Do you bless your food and can you really enjoy what you eat? Or do you feel guilty after eating or have regrets? This is all contributing to what happens in your body and with your weight.

I know the Australian government says the drinkwater is of a good quality, but I personally have experienced that my sensitive body becomes ill from this tap water, and I know I’m not the only one. I’ve bought a special alkalinity water filter system that filters the bad things (such as fluoride, arsenic, chlorine, herbicides & pesticides, industrial poisons, rust, bacteria, cysts, parasites, and Amoeba) out of tap water and adds the good things to it, like minerals. With this water I wash my veggies and fruit, I brush my teeth and rinse my toothbrush and I only drink this water. When I go out for dinner, I bring my own water bottle to have my quality water with me. And this water tastes way nicer too!
Soda and soft drinks aren’t helpful for your weight (and health) because of the large amount of sugar in it. And I’ve just read there exists research about diet soda that suggests that weight loss is delayed by artificial sweeteners. So the very thing you thought was helping you may be hindering your process. [Angel Detox by Doreen Virtue & Robert Reeves]
Alcohol can cause weight gain too and it’s best to quit alcohol anyway for your health, but also for your spiritual connection with your guides and angels.

Heavy metals and Epstein Barr Virus (EBV)

Heavy metals can enter your body through many ways; in your household (material of pans, aluminium foil, chemicals in your food or house cleaning products), fluoride treatment at the dentist, exhaust fumes, etc. Heavy metals together with the Epstein Barr Virus can cause lots of problems with your health, including mystery illnesses, which then can cause possible weight gain. It’s best to detox your body from heavy metals and EBV. You can find a lot of information how to detox from this on internet.

Exercise/movement

Do you get enough exercise/movement with your physical body? It’s best to have a balance between the feminine (yoga/pilates/tai chi/dance) and masculine (cardio and weights) forms of movement. And it’s great when you can exercise in nature cause it’ll even make you feel better. Moving your body can contribute to weight loss because it helps to burn calories and fat.

I hope the above is giving you an idea what could have caused your weight gain and what you can do yourself to transform this. If you need assistance in releasing feelings, emotions and beliefs around your weight gain and wish to lose weight, feel free to contact me hoe we can work together to achieve this.

When I asked Archangel Michael what to write about today, he gave me a question in return: ‘What did you experience and learn lately?’ I noticed the last weeks that I wasn’t completely happy with where I was in life. After a big change almost three years ago, when my husband crossed over, my whole life was upside down and I had to reinvent and rebuild myself piece by piece. I connected with my heart and connected to what makes me happy, especially what type of work brings me joy. For me that is seeing the transformation in my clients after a session. They come in with a tight skin and an aura with no space around them. When they release blockages, there’s a shift that we both can feel happening, where their aura expands and they experience a relief, a weight sliding off their shoulders, and new space around them to ‘breathe’ including boundaries towards others. Then I can see their skin on their face changing. That brings me joy and at the same time gratitude for the process where so many angels, guides, ascended masters and The Creator assist us with.

Back to the point where I am in life now. Because I am a sole trader, there’s always the stress about finances. A week can be busy, but another week can be very quiet. Since I’m in Australia it’s never been a stable income. And exactly that point is one of my desires; to have a stable income with the work I love. I’ve had a temporary part-time administrative job last year, but it didn’t make me happy. I even became ill again. My body was protesting my actions and decisions. This year I wanted to do it in a different way. I started creating workshops of diverse subjects, but specifically subjects that I have an interest in. It is kind of the same as when you read a book; you love reading a book that has your interest. You’re in the flow of reading the story or info and you can’t stop till you’ve finished the book and have a good memory of the story so you can look back with a sense of fulfilment. If you do the work you love, it’ll bring you a sense of fulfilment, joy and happiness, but you’ll discover a drive inside you to do the work, take actions and keep moving forward. And one of my eagerness of learning new things and improve my skills and expand my knowledge to even assist more clients in new ways, makes me continuously study new topics about health.

I noticed lately that fears came up about my future. As a human being I’d like to have some security about my future, but there isn’t any at the moment. There is the ‘knowing’ that I am safe and am guided on my path, but sometimes the connection with my guidance becomes like a thin thread, because I think too much. You know that feeling, when you’re in your mind, trying to figure out the ‘how’ part of the delivery of your desires? Then you’re standing in the way of The Creator to deliver the magic on your path. You’re literally blocking your flow and success. For me getting a client at that moment who is very much in their mind and having problems connecting with their feelings, is a mirror to me that I’m too much in my head. It was time to work on my fears and frustration. It’s a blockage that builds up till a feeling of being stuck. The difference is that I recognise getting stuck and look for help. It’s not anything to be ashamed about, it’s the opposite. It’s an opportunity to grow and to release old energy that I don’t want to carry with me any longer. So I visited some colleagues and worked on my feelings, released a lot, got new insights, take some extra natural support for my body to heal, and feel realigned again with what I’m here for on this planet earth. I asked for help and received it. I’m calmer in my mind and body, sleep nicely again, and I can enjoy being in the moment e.g. by sitting outside in the sun and feeling grateful for that. I make a list of things-to-do and get them all ticked off and feel proud about that. I‘m back on track.

If you feel stuck or frustrated about where you are in life, I can assist you in releasing your fears and frustration and get you back on track again. I’d love to assist your personal growth process and can help in many different ways. If you’d like to know me better before you come for a session, you can join a workshop and learn more about health and how you can support your health in different ways. I’d like to see you grow in an empowered way, where you take actions in your own hands so you can be proud of your achievement, because I know how that feels too. Welcome to the world of personal growth!

Where is your Power?

When you want to achieve a personal goal, and you can’t get your actions done, even though you mentally want them for yourself, it can mean you’re missing your power. You’ve probably heard the sentence ‘You have to step into your power’, but what is ‘stepping into your power’? And where is your Power?

In sessions with clients I’ve often watched them come at the point where they become aware of missing their power. When I ask them to feel where their power is and guide them back to where they left their power, they can go back in time to a situation in the past. We can work through that situation and integrating the power.

But sometimes a client doesn’t know where their power is, which can give feelings of powerlessness and frustration. Know that this is a (temporary) disconnection from their power and you can meditate on finding your power. Go inside and feel what power is for you. How would it be to have your power? What’s the effect if you would have all your power? What are your fears when you would have your power and stand in your power? What would be the reaction of your environment when you would stand in your power? How were you raised around power? Was power something positive or did your environment judge people who used their power? You’ll discover what keeps you from being in your power, which are often fears and limiting beliefs.

Sensitive people are often more visual and could see an image/picture in their mind while meditating about power. I’ve heard clients telling they got a picture of themselves standing next to their power. A good question to ask yourself then is: ‘What keeps you from stepping into your power?’ The fears and limiting beliefs will come up here.

It’s important to release your fears and limiting beliefs around power, because it’s your birthright to stand in your power. You have divine permission to own your power and use it to be You. It is part of being true to yourself, being authentic and unique. If there are people in your environment who judge you when you stand in your power, when you are the real You and live your truth, they are not the ones who contribute to your life and you can either decide to end the relationship with them or to minimise contact. They’re not the ones who encourage you to grow personally and to experience happiness and joy. People who judge, don’t judge you personally, so please don’t take it personally. They reject a part of themselves which they don’t want to face. It’s easier for them to judge someone else instead of facing themselves in the mirror and taking responsibility to be their true self and work on releasing their own blockages.

Now visualise or fantasise about yourself standing completely in your power, owning your power, using your power in a positive, loving way to be your true You. How does this feel in your body? Where do you feel it the strongest? Focus on this part of your body and magnify this feeling from there, let it spread to every cell of your body and radiate to the outside world. Keep this feeling with you from now on. Check it every day. When it’s fading away or disappeared, reclaim your power again and refill every cell with it. You are very capable of owning your power in a positive way and it’s time to show the world!

I get more female clients lately who ended their romantic relationship with a man, still feel a lot of love for him, but know the relation won’t work any longer because it doesn’t make them happy nor fulfilled. They are suffering from strong emotions even though they know it was the right decision. They reach out for help to clear their energy so they can move on with life.

What has happened, is that the love was so strong, real and feeling so good, so they’ve experienced true love, that their energy has intertwined with their partner during the relationship. The woman has lost herself, can’t distinguish what her own feelings and her partner’s feelings are any longer. The energies feel like one energy. It gives a lot of strong emotions including fears and sadness and doubts about if they’ve made the right choice, even though they know in their mind that it was the right choice.

Often the cause of having ended the relationship with the man is that he didn’t want to commit 100% to the relationship and the woman felt she needed that because she committed fully with all her love. From my clients I got the feedback that the man said he couldn’t commit 100% to the relationship and they could pinpoint for the man that he had fears to commit fully, but didn’t work on releasing the fears. The women noticed that without the full commitment of the man in a relationship, they weren’t happy and it didn’t fulfil. They were missing that full commitment. The time together could be very pleasant, but only gave fulfilment while spending time together, so short term. The time without being together didn’t fulfil, so long term it caused unhappiness.
I want to make sure that everyone can make the decision to commit 100% to a relationship, if they want to. It means you have to work on yourself and find out what blocks you from not committing fully, what fears are there? And then you have to release those fears. If someone says he/she can’t commit fully, that means they don’t want to. If you want to, you can. It starts with the decision to want to.

After ending the relationship, the women felt overly emotional with lots of questions in their mind why they were feeling so bad. They had problems moving forward, couldn’t concentrate/focus, were tired, had sleeping issues, and thoughts about the man constantly popped up in their mind, they even could feel sexual desires and butterflies in their tummy at times. The last one gave doubts if they were still so much in love that they maybe had made the wrong choice.

Most women who came to me, knew that cutting cords was probably necessary. It’s true that after a relationship you can best cut cords with your ex-partner because there can be many cords attached which can drain you and make you stay connected. You can’t move on with your own life then. And if they are cords to your sacral chakra, you pick up on sexual desires of your ex-partner and think or doubt if they are yours. Cords to your heart can keep you feeling sad without being able to move forward through the grieving phases of an ended relationship. It can feel like a broken heart but without the possibility to heal it. Cords to your mind can cause that you experience your ex-partner to have access to your thoughts and you pick up on his thoughts or desires too. It can feel as if you never get him out of your mind, as if you can’t think of anything else any more. And it gives problems with concentrating/focussing, which can give problems with your job and other parts of your daily life. After cutting cords you feel freed from your ex-partner’s energy. But I’ve seen that the cords can be reattached in one day, when you don’t stand in your power to tell your ex-partner energetically that you don’t allow to connect cords to you any longer. You have to tell they need to find another way to give themselves love, self-love, because you’re not supplying that any longer to them. You can see this as your ex-partner has an emptiness inside that needs to be filled up with love, not your love but self-love. Maybe you filled up this emptiness during your relationship with your love. It’s setting your boundaries that your ex-partner may not connect to you with cords any longer and need to find another way to receive self-love.

You probably had one or more past lives together too, and there can still be contracts or agreements and karma about those lives in place. You’ve chosen as souls to work on this in your current life on earth. It’s a matter of finding out what is still there that needs to be finished or if it can be released now because it’s completed. There can be past life vows in place that are blocking you from moving forward. The most common ones I’ve seen with clients are about commitment problems, having promised to always love each other (which makes you radiate to the world you’re not available for a new relationship), to never love again and stay alone, to never leave someone (even though you’ve ended the relationship, you stay connected and are not available for a new relationship), and surrendering your power to another. After releasing these vows, you’ll feel so much lighter and you can step into your power and find yourself again. Of course you need to do an energy exchange too where you call back your own energy and power and you send back the energy of your ex-partner to them.

If you feel powerless after ending the relationship, it’s possible that you’ve had a power based relationship. Were you in your power before the relationship started? What happened during the relation? Did you feel you were controlled? This means you’ve given your power away to your partner in the relation. It’s important to search for the reason. There can be an underlying trauma or low self-esteem can be the cause. It’s such a win if you can increase your self-esteem and step into your power again. To feel your own energy, be in your own energy, and set and protect your boundaries and communicate freely from your heart. Of course your previous relationship has made you decide to not want certain situations happening to you again. You won’t let them happen because you’ve learned from it and released the blockages. Now you can be yourself, find yourself as in what makes you happy, what the tools are to recharge your energy, how you can protect your boundaries and step up for yourself and your needs and being true to your heart. This is the path to your happiness. It’s perfectly fine to use your power in this positive way for your own happiness.

When you still feel there are issues to release after an ended relationship and to clear your energy, feel free to contact me how we can work together to get you back into your power and ready to move forward with your life as the ‘new you’.

When you would have asked me fifteen years ago, how it feels to stand in your power, I would have shrugged my shoulders and said: “I wish I knew, I’m working on it.” Since then I have done several educations, courses and workshops, read many book, have had many sessions with practitioners and released lots of blockages from my past. I have experienced moments where I stood in my power but with traumatic experiences like my divorce in 2009 and then when I lost my husband in 2015, I have also felt out of balance and out of control. But I finally have achieved to find out how it feels to stand in your power and not let this feeling slip away, even in challenging situations. I can tell you now how it feels; it feels joyous, confident, free, strong and proud! It’s a great feeling and I’m super grateful I can feel this now.

If you also want to achieve this, I can imagine your question would be: “What exactly was it that made the change?” It was not one specific thing or method or release, it was everything I did the last fifteen years to work on myself. A special part of what I learned was how to love and nurture myself. I didn’t learn this from my parents. That was a consciousness level they weren’t at back then. I had to discover it myself during my life. I’ve made mistakes, I’ve given my power and energy away in many situations, I’ve chosen actions and communication that I wasn’t proud of afterwards, but I’ve learned from every situation and challenge. Years ago I learned how to call my power and energy back from people and situations and that was so useful. It made me discover who I was and what my energy felt like. Because I’m a healer, an empath and very sensitive, I let my energy intertwine with others and this caused often an energy exchange that left me behind with the low vibrational energy feelings of the other person. But I wasn’t conscious about this energy exchange. I learned it because of a huge decision in my life to free myself and concentrate on what felt different after that decision.

Also changing my diet had a big positive impact on my health. One of the downsides of this is that it’s less fun to go out for dinner, because the restaurants don’t serve a lot that I’d like to eat to nurture my body, but fortunately there are popping up more real healthy food restaurants in the area. I’ve learned so much about nutrition too that is useful in my life. And I learned to listen to my body and find out what foods are good for it and what isn’t. I even discovered that when you start to use a supplement to support your health, you have to tune in with your body to which supplement is right for you. Your body is unique and it’s important to connect with it fully.

Maybe you think after reading this that it can be quite tiring or hard to work so much on yourself. Yes it is! I say this again: yes it is. But it’s worth it. You never know on forehand how long it takes to overcome a challenge, it can feel exhausting, hopeless, frustrating, hard, annoying, awful, like you want to give up and you’re losing faith, but you’ll always come through it. Every little step forward is one forward, even if you feel like going ten steps back after that. You’ll find you’ll recover faster every time this happens and finally you are moving forward with bigger steps, challenges get easier to take and aren’t throwing you back so hard anymore. And then comes that moment where you experience you are in your power, you know what you want, you feel what you want, you feel you’re on the right path and you are determined and unstoppable to create the life you want while feeling good and in balance, proud, confident, free, happy, joyful and at peace. You’re never done with working on yourself. It takes as long as you live. There will always come new challenges on your path. It’s a matter of taking them and keeping that faith that you can deal with them. Wishing you all the strength you need on your journey!

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